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writes:hiya, i would like anyone to help me regarding my boyfriend. We had a huge argument last saturday and both attended a party that night. We didn't talk as we were both mad at each other and both got really drunk with seperate groups of friends. In the end, I ended up sending hima really harsh text that hurt him a lot and I should not of sent it. He then went clubbing with his friends and did not text me back.The next day I went to get my things from his house and he was furious, he would not listen to a thing i had to say so i ended up taking my stuff and leaving. I wrote him a note apologizing etc. and he text me saying that it had made him cry. I then left it for a day or so until I text him again. He said he still cares about me and loves me but he didn't want to forgive me for hurting him. I then left it for anothert days.I then text hm again and he started to get annoyed with me and told me he didnt love me anymore because of what i said and because i was keeping on at him. Iv text him once since then but I think he may of jst said this out of anger, however, im not sure.He says he doesnt want to talk to me because theres nothing to say but I have to work with him and saw him looking around for me today. He had previously been discussing with me moving in (we had been together about 10months) He is 25, I am 19. He also told me I was the love of his life so surely this can be saved?Im pretty hopeless at knowing what to do with things like this and was wondering if anyone can give me their opinions / advice? Many Thanks x
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 You made a mistake in texting him the harsh words, but now he's giving you the silent treatment.
Will he text you back? Unfortunately, none of us can really say. I agree with Honeypie, though, if you are the love of his life, he'll contact you... and the ball's in his court.
When we get drunk, we tend to forget that bad decisions have CONSEQUENCES, some of them severe. I don't get drunk. Never have, never will. We do things that we regret. Let this be a lesson to you.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (9 July 2009):
You made a mistake in texting him the harsh words, but now he's giving you the silent treatment.
Will he text you back? Unfortunately, none of us can really say. I agree with Honeypie, though, if you are the love of his life, he'll contact you... and the ball's in his court.
When we get drunk, we tend to forget that bad decisions have CONSEQUENCES, some of them severe. I don't get drunk. Never have, never will. We do things that we regret. Let this be a lesson to you.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 July 2009):
 For God's sake stop with the texting! Pick up the phone and TALK. You can not maintain a relationship based on texting.
PS. The ball is in his court. IF you truly are the love of his life he will want to talk.
Most people have been in the situation of saying something they regret ( being drunk or sober) IT HAPPENS. If he can not get over what you said, then maybe he isn't for you. There is a saying, think before you speak. It's a good one for any situations.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 July 2009):
 He will when he's ready and if he still is interested. Whatever you said to him may have been a deal buster but if it just hurt his feelings he probably will get over it eventually. You need to have some self-restraint and quit texting or calling him. Guys hate needy girls, so just leave it be for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah but he's pretty stubborn... will he contact me?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 July 2009):
Leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI saw him today and he walked past me with that smile you get when you see someone and you just cant help it? I text him saying 'do you really not love me anymore?' and he didnt text me back x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 July 2009):
First leave him alone, totally. Let him come to you. And second, lay off the sauce if it affects your judgement so drastically.
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