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writes:i have been dating this girl for a while but i know very little of her sexual experience. she claims she has had only one serious boyfriend but dated other people. after my second date with her i was perfoming oral on her but she did not let me had intercourse and she did not returned the favor.Same thing happened after a few dates. Finally after that we finally had sex. she claims that was because she has very limited sexual experience and was afraid to fall in love with me. i dont know what to think.It was easy to get her naked on our second date and to give her oral. in your own opinion does her behaviour and reactions define her as an easygirl? what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much for your comments, im feeling relived now. i belive the cause of my concerns is my lack of security and double moral.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 If she was an easy girl, you would have had intercourse on the first date. So no, she is not easy.
What's the big deal about her sexual past?
Do you want an easy girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2012): This may be a bit irrelevant, but there are different reasons people get naked quickly but may not want to go all the way immediately. I, for instance, had absolutely no sexual experience when I got with my current boyfriend so I didn't know how long people usually wait before they start doing sexual things. Because of this (and because I wanted to distract him from his ex, in case he wanted to go back to her) I got naked with him very quickly. However, the idea of sex with him terrified me. This girl will have her own reasons for everything she does. Don't judge her for it.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Well if she is an 'easy girl' then you are an 'easy man'! Double standard here methinks.....
But really, who cares?! Do you like her? Do you enjoy being with her? Do you want to spend more time with her? Do you see a future with her? That is WAY more important than her allowing you to give her oral on a second date.
She doesnt sound 'easy' to me at all, she sounds like she wanted to make sure that you genuinely liked her before you had sex because she gets emotionally attached to the men she has sex with.
Is it really so bad that because you were both so physically attracted to each other on the 2nd date you fooled around a bit? To me that would be a good thing, that you both 'want' each other so much that you ended up doing that, it would be more worrying if you werent attracted to each other and still hadnt done anything physical!
But as I said at the start, if she is easy then so are you, therefore what right do you have to judge her when you are the exact same? It takes two to tango, you got her into bed and gave her oral, and the fact she didnt return the favour showed her reluctance to get physical with you - she clearly didnt want things to go too quick with you.
Forget about these stupid ideas of 'easy' etc, and judge her on her personality and your compatibility instead. As long as she isnt dating loads of guys at the same time and sleeping with them all then she isnt 'easy' - I really dont think you have anything to worry about.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Don't do sexual stuff with a girl and then think she is easy. LAME. you are doing sexual stuff so are you easy. You think cause you are a guy that it is ok but girls are supposed to pure white as snow virgins. Give me a break. Where do you think your experinece comes from? it sure isn't virgins. A woman will always lie about how many people she has been with because of men who think just like you are thinking right now. If you didn't judge us for caving into our own desires for you when you try and deliberately get us to then we could be honest. I have only had 5 serious relationships but you better believe that any facts outside of that, I will take to the grave. Try to see her for the beautiful person she presently is and not try to find fault with her in her past. You would not like to be judged that way would you? You have a great girl who likes you. Don't ruin it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (17 December 2012):
You may not have very much experience with women, but most of them are easy by your definition. I think the longest I've waited for a girl is a week or so... Maybe a little bit longer, but that's the exception. I think that if there is chemistry most people prefer not to wait very long. My wife was very inexperienced when we met but we slept together pretty quickly because we really hit it off and she felt comfortable with me.
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