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writes:My bestfriend and I have recently started dating. Before us dating he used to like me a lot and I wasn't really that much into him. He tried his best and we finally started dating. Now, he just doesn't seem to care as much as he did before. We don't talk for days, he never replies to my texts and even if we do talk it only lasts for 20 minutes or so. I talked to him about it and he keeps on changing the topic. What am I supposed to do? Was I just a challenge for him and now that he accomplished it he doesn't need me anymore?
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (6 February 2011):
There are people in this world that will always want what they can't have, and then when they have got it, they don't want it.
It sounds like this is the case with your boyfriend... sorry!
Why don't you take control here and suggest that you would rather break up and remain friends than continue like it is as it obviously isn't working out.
In time you will find someone who will want to see you as much as he possibly can because he is genuinely interested in you and can't get enough of you.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 He's a chaser and thAts it. It's frustrating cause they can't live without and then it's like u don't exist. There Are guys out there who are not like this. Just dump him. Free him to continue his cycle which will ultimately leave him alone in life. U deserve better
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reader, Mr.Joe +, writes (6 February 2011):
 Your bf may just be nervous. Is he hesitant to talk? He may not want to say the wrong things and blow the relationship right away. He might be observing to know what to talk about. Does he want to go to your place to hang out or do you go to his place? If he wants you to go to his place he may be nervous and his place makes him feel more comfortable. Try to get him relaxed and feeling safe. Make it clear to him that you want to talk about this without any consequences of you getting seriously mad at him.If a real problem does arise that you think leaving him is best, then do it.
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