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writes:I have been with the guy I love since the first night I ever hung out with him. We started dating that night and 4 months later, we got engaged. Now, we are 6 months into the relationship. It happened fast, i know, but oh well. He bought one of them sporty motorcycles and rides it with a bunch of his guy friends. That part wasn't hard. Then his friends started bringing really pretty girls and I really hate the motorcycle so I never really go (plus i cant because i don't live with him, i live about 15 minutes away without a vehicle because i totaled it). Then he starts telling me all these stories of what these girls are doing while they go riding and it makes me jealous. I act upset when he tells me hes gonna go and he offers to sell his bike but I'm just like no its fine (to be polite so maybe he will just sell it on his own) but nope he doesn't. I just get this really bad feeling in my stomach like I'm going to vomit then i get a headache and get all hot and sweaty. I guess I'm just worried I'm going to lose something great. Then i also have this feeling that hes going to tell me he is going to bed but going to a party and is going to make out or worse with another girl. I really don't know what I would do.
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Your engaged. Shouldn't be. There's too many issues that need worked on before a life commitment can take place. Enjoying bikes and riding is not bad. My pastor owns a "yamaha" he does get picked on by his friends with harley's. he is married, yet goes on some of the biker road trips. The difference between his story and yours is absolute trust. The kind that helps a marriage by having. They know each other inside and out, and she knows if there were a hundred biker girls taking off their cloths in front of him, he would leave without toughing one of them. I agree it's wrong for him to use the "fine if you want me to" you disagree with him, that's because you don't want to seem as if you are forcing him into doing something he doesn't want too. Now if he had respect, and kept the bike, if the girls bothered you, he should make sure he's not riding with those who bring them around. It is also inappropriate to bring up their behaviors also. The two evils you have with that is, you're jealous thinking these sluts are going to go after your man and he's telling you the stories thinking, she's going to be proud of me for not taking part in these activities. The two of you need to talk, get these things on the table and work out a solution that works for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): You live 15 minutes away, and he doesn't offer to pick you up? He tells you things that these biker groupies are doing and he knows it upsets you? He offers to sell the bike but doesn't do it? He only offered to sell it because he knows you won't make him. You have no backbone & he is probably doing things with these sluts. Why do you think biker guys are attracted to that lifestyle? Because it's wild, dangerous, fun and the biker girls are the same exact way. You're afraid of losing something you never had. I don't think he respects you at all & you let him.
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