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writes:i am just in a fix! i honestly dont know what to do,i hope to get help from anyone, the thing is, im in a relationship, but with my cousin, 1st cousin, i love him alot ever since we were small. and then back in december 2006 i told him how i felt and i was shocked cause he felt the same way to, weve been with each other for 3 years now . we are like soo close we have so much in common we practically grew up with each other we hang out alot because my parents hang out with his alot to... hes from my dads side. We love each other so much, Tell each other everything we are there for each other. The thing is we dont know how to tell our parents yet, we will wait for when the time is right. buht right now i wonder should i keep continueing wats going on. hes my cousin and my love of my life I simply cant live witout him..i just dont know what to do.someone please help me!thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): This is what we did. We told our parents and they were completly shock. Before they start to yell at us was we ran away and fled to Mexico and stayed at our second cousin Pedro house. After we finished 11th grade we came back to Texas but our parents don't know we're here. Right now we're living with Pedro and his wife Claudia who are our "gardians". Its been about a year scince we talk to our parents but we're planning to visit them in May or after we finish high school this year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow, You guys are simply the best, Thank you to everyone who gave me advice i really appriciate it,
& im in canada is it illegal to have a relationship with your 1st cousin? I dont think it is buht i just wanna say thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): about a year ago I had a slight crush on my cousin and I think he felt the same but I never told him . I think you guys can stay in a loving realtionship and ask your parents how they feel about what they think about it and go from there....
hope that helped a little :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): you could continue to love each other but go your separate ways. Im in the same situatuion with my cousin. We both love eachother dearly and if we weren't cousins we'd probably be together now. along the way i think we realised that we don't have to have sex or be married or anything like that to love eachother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): wow! i have this same thing with my second cousin!i know from experience because when we were young we always liked each other! we would never see each other much because we are second cousins but always kept in contact daily! im 18 right now and the love is still there! heck, we haven't even dated anyone because we love each other so much. im pretty sure i couldn't tell my family that i love her and there would never be a time to tell them without being shocked. i feel very deeply about her and im very sure that she is the love in my life. i can't live without her either!
i think its something about the month of march that is getting us. the love for my second cousin has always been there and for some reason i have been calling her more than usual in this month than any other month ( she calls me a lot and she has been noticing i have been calling about the same as she has been calling me).
its good in a way that i find other people are loving their cousins also! i thought i was the only one!
note: im between the ages 17-18 so im pretty sure we are on the same boat.
ill bookmark this so i can see other peoples post to this question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): This is indeed a sticky situation.
Look, there is no way you tell your families that will make them any less shocked. I mean 1st cousins are illegal for a reason.
However you feel, it is highly unlikely that anyone with modern sensibilties will accept or condone your relationship, so you must be prepared to deal with this kind of blacklisting.
Best of luck to you.
Flynn 24
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reader, MissKin  + ♥, writes (21 March 2008):
 It is custom in England and the USA to frown upon inter-family relationships, especially with someone as close as first cousins. I don't know how your parents think or what the general consensus where you live is, so i can't predict the initial reaction.
You obviously love your cousin very much and i can't say if it's right or wrong - but you only want to know how to tell your parents so you're obviously set on making this relationship work.
I think however you do it it's going to be a shock. Waiting until the 'right time' could be difficult because that's just another way of putting it off. I think you should get all the parents together in a calm environment and with a neutral party (such as a friend or sibling that knows and is okay with it) before telling them. Make sure you're both together when you tell both or either sets of parents, it won't be something either of you should go through alone. Together things will become a bit easier.
I hope things work out,
Miss Kin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): First up, don't let anyone tell you that what your doing is ''wrong''. LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES.
However, many families thesedays are old fashioned and your family might look down on what you n your bf have, but to be honest, i bet they werent in a relationship for 3 years and still strong at your age.
Talk to your bf about it! not this site! dearcupid is great but i think you need to sort this one out for yourself, dont let yourself be pressured into keepin it secret or lettin it out in the open, it is up to you and your bf only.
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