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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I've met this new man 18 years my senior right after my divorce. He makes me feel loved and wanted. I love the way he treats me but I know I dont have much feelings for him. My problem is I love being loved but dont know how to love again. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): I don't think you should worry right now - is it still early days? Love can grow and with the emotions still in your veins surrounding divorce I think it can make you a bit numb almost - like you are unable to connect. Are you feeling like this about other aspects of your life? Disconnected or unable to enjoy the things you used to? This could be mild depression and can impact on how you respond to someone. That is only one possibility. Of course it may be that you don't have the 'chemistry' for love to develop and age is no barrier to 'chemistry'. Being a friend, support, lover, soulmate - are all important. Perhaps try to be responsive or proactive in all areas of your life. Do not underestimate residual feelings regarding your divorce. I would give this some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): You chose to mention the age gap - does that secretly worry you? Anyway, of course it is wonderful to be loved but if you can't reciprocate his feelings, then you can't force it. Just accept his friendship and also accept that he is not 'the one' for you. Your feelings of love will come naturally with the right man - there is no secret method here. Time to move on I think.
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