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writes:hi there,i got married to a thai woman who brought a six months old daugther in our marriage. I adopted the lovely child after three years of being married. With my wife I have been married for more than six years. as i got to leave thailand where i have been working for several years I was totally shocked when i returned to bangkok. She was pregnant for six months and that with her former thai boyfriend. I wanted to file divorce but she did not accompany me to the local ampur. Although i love the adopted daughter so much but i have problems to support "my" wife. I am really afraid that the money goes directly into the hands of the thai boyfriend who works as a guitar player in the evening hours. I am really confused and upset with my situation and do not know what i can do next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): From my experience many Thai who like foreigners have 1 or 2 times where they fall in love for real. But so many foreigners treat Thailand as a place to go and play and use the locals as toys to play with. They say and do whatever is needed to have fun, then leave. And the locals get incredibly jaded and eventually grow hard and cold. And who can blame them. If you meet a Thai before they have been treated badly they are absolutely the best! Patient, loving and loyal. But get one who has already lost faith and you will end up being no more than a cash machine. You sound like you have the later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your instant answers. To my age, i was 32 years old and she 25 when we got married. I am not a bad looking guy, well educated, and used to have good jobs in Asia.
She is a muslim and worked for several years at central in bangkok. I agree she is still immature although 34 years old now. During my marriage with her she became more and more like a starlet. Since one year she got so many problems with family who she did not see for almost one year. Nevermind, i do not like to talk much about her. I do not wish her bad luck but that matter drove me totally down. But I believe in justice by the end. Again, I got to find legal support but this should only be happen in Bangkok.
Many thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Sounds like your wife is very immature! Is she much younger than you? Did she marry you for love? What was the circumstance that brought you to marry her?
I agree with the other posters that you need some serious legal advice, quickly. Please come back and post what you find out so you might spare some other poor sucker that thinks a thai bride is the way to go...
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (2 July 2008):
 You need to seek legal advice from someone who knows the laws of Thailand well. A local attorney (or whatever the term is there) should be able to make the proper arrangements for you to get your divorce without your having to support your wife's boyfriend. I can't imagine that a country like Thailand would not have some legal provision for divorce without support under circumstances such as these, where a woman becomes pregnant while her husband is absent. But get local legal advice. I doubt anyone here will know the laws of that country well enough to advise you.
Alternately, you might be able to seek a divorce in a US court in your state of residence, but once again the circumstances are very complex, and competent legal advice is the only answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I'm sorry, but it sounds like you are being used as a cash-machine. It doesn't even sound like she's pretending to care. I would seriously look into a way to obtain a divorce from her so you can start to work towards ending this pain. As for the little girl you adopted - I don't know. Whether you would want to remain involved in her life emotionally is up to you and her mother (which may be difficult due to the distance) but you also need to find out where you stand as far as child support goes, as if you have legally adopted her you may well have to pay for her. You might also want to look into how you stand with regards to having to pay child support for the second child as well, as in some places the law automatically decides that you are the father and legally responsible for the child if you are married to the mother.
Get some serious legal advice and start getting yourself out of this before she drains you dry.
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