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writes: Hi all, Lately I have been very busy but I have a new man in my life. He is so nice to me and attentive. He tells me he loves me and misses me every day. I recently put some space between me and my guy friend because he has some anxiety and mental problems. My boyfriend says he doesn't mind if I have pen pals so I told him about this guy. He doesn't like him because of the way he use to treat me and neither does my other guy pals. One of my friends refers to him as a douchebag. He has been very elusive lately and he doesn't text me back. Which is unusual for him. When we were friends he told me that he has had sexual problems with his ex-girlfriends. (saying that their vaginas weren't tight and didn't like women with loose pussies and women with kids) He sent me porn pictures and say it would be beautiful if it was us. And would often talk about facesitting. He says relationships are tough and there are too many expectations and headaches. He is on a dating site and he told me he isn't looking for a relationship. He claims he is STD free and asked if I was, we talked about diseases and I told him I don't sleep around so he said he respects that. I think he might be playing women.I tried to contact him on the site to express my concern for him but he took his photo out and his profile is hidden. I was on there to delete my profile and I removed him from my favorites, but he was still on there and this was before he hid his profile so he must have noticed that I removed him. He has told me he is attracted to me and has been frustrated(I'm guessing sexually) but I told him I care about this new man, and that he is already talking about having a future with me. I left him a text telling him that when he comes up in the Spring that I will give him my answer to his proposal. He is a difficult person to get along with and doesn't trust women. He has acted quite jealous of guys that I have spoken to and I kind of brushed it off. I really want to enjoy my new relationship, but I am worried about my friend because he has a lot of anxiety and mental issues. Is is possible that he was upset with me for removing him? And should I be concerned for him? He has told me at times that he is lonely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe remark about it's on to the next female is low. I am not gullible. If you are a mental health nurse you should be a more sensitive person. You are taking shots at me for whatever reason. My post is about a guy who I think is lonely and it doesn't matter what he wanted from me. I am a caring person and I do have female friends who I talk to. If you read it correctly I stated that the guy respected my choice not to sleep with him or anyone else until I am married, so that does not make me gullible, stupid and I was never chasing him. He chased me! My boyfriend is fine with me having pen pals as long as it is platonic. And your choice of words (some donkey). You don't sound like a mental health nurse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): Listen I don't want to be miss meanie here, but really what age are you??This guy has been explicit in his language and behaviour in regard to what kinda relationship he wants .. And unless your extremely naive then you know damn well it isn't friendship !Friends don't sex text each other , or say what kinda sexually favours they want in bed ?? I mean there is no where in your post, where you talk about anything else otherthan him looking at you as a usable sex object ..He isn't interested in friendship .. Truth be told he isn't that interested in you by your account .Why are you so deemed at chasing him.. If your new guy is as you say basically the one and offering a future, why mess it up with some donkey who just cared about his led in his pencil getting sharpened ?? Last but not least do you have any girl friends or are they all guy friends ?? As being honest most if these guys are not friends for just friendship sake ..Do take care and let this go . You will cause more havoc in the long run . As a mental health nurse, his illness ( whatever it is ) has nothing to do with his behaviour and excluding you .. Your not available for sex so it's on to the next gullible female .
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