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writes:My boyfriend and I haven't got a good sex life, we've been together a year and a half and we've always had problems with sex, he's rarely managing to hold an erection, and lately it's getting worse, now it's like I have to choose between an unerected penis or sex that is over before it's started because he came early? And I'm feeling very disheartened and loosing my libido and I normally have a high sex drive! I don't know what to do no more! Can anyone give me any advise!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2012): If he has consistently had this problem for a year and a half, he might benefit from a trip to his doctor just to rule out any underlying health problem. Erectile disfunction can be very embarrassing for guys and sometimes it is caused by a health issue, so better safe than sorry. A tactful approach might help when you suggest a doctors visit and you could offer to go along for moral support. All the best.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (17 June 2012):
 Does he masturbate a lot or watch lots of porn cause this can be an issue?
If not then maybe he is stressed, if that is unlikely maybe more foreplay and fun before actually sex could help, lingerie, games and so on.
if this all fails i would suggest the doctor as for a young man this isnt right
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reader, Sammia +, writes (17 June 2012):
There could be a lot of reasons for this, you would need to talk to him about this it could be stress related or something else. As for your sex life unless you are planning on a family it doesn't have to be about intercourse. Try other things if he feels he can please you without intercourse that might take pressure off him and he may get his erection back in time. Men are insecure to and feel a certain pressure. Never put him down or make him feel you are disappointed it only adds to his problems. Try this if there is no change after a few months he might need to see a doctor.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 Is he very stressed at work or on new medications? If yes, talk to him about those problems and how you can work through them.
If no, does he masturbate a lot? That can cause ED in young men.
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reader, Cutless  +, writes (17 June 2012):
I have experience such thing earliar,and believe its can be very embarrasing especially for the guy.initially i thot it was erectile dysfunction,after many research,and consultation,luckily for me,my dad is a medical practitioner and mum a nurser,they were so amused when i told them i'm having erectile dysfunction.mum had to convince me that teenager rarely suffer from that disease(im 19) i was very desperate becos i hardly maintain and erection,when i manage to do so its only soft erection and definitly i cum as early as 10secs. To cut the story short mum told me that it is more of a psychological problem than physical. The causes are 1 nervousness. Believe if u are nervous especially when u are with a new partner u can hardly maintain an erection2 anxiety3 lack of confidence on bedso believe me it wil get better with time,cos i cnt believe how long i cn last nowif he cums before u do,u two shud try out some foreplay before hand it helps alot to make u reach organism even if d main sex last 2secs hence both of you wil be satisfyand try to be in control show him what u want him to do,and encourage him to go on if he does what turns u oni hope this will help
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