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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidFor the last two years, I've been unhappy. During my finals at uni, this guy who I used to date contacted me after a long period. He said he liked me and wanted to date. To be honest I couldn't jeopardize my studies, I think at the time I was scared what could have happened between us. We were friends, I found out 2 months later he met someone else. I was devastated but never told him how I felt about him. I was going to meet him after my exams and wanted to try again with him but canceled the meet up, I stopped the communication with him. I was so ambitious on my career at uni.I then spent 9 months being unemployed and I couldn't stop thinking about him. I was stresed finding work and emotional. I attended so many interviews and they rejected me. It affected my confidence. I foolishly got in touch with him, he was happy with his relationship. We starting talking again but my feelings became intense. He started to feel confused with who he wanted to be with i.e his GF or me. He said he's always liked me. He wouldn't let me move on, one min he'd want to try again with me and then he'd wanted to be friends. In the end, we both had a major argument and said some horrible things. We've not spoken for 8 months. He moved away with his GF. I never wanted to ruin their relationship.I'm now working in a call centre job and I hate it there. I feel de-motivated, miserable and I have low confidence. I don't feel passion about life anymore, everyday I don't want to go into work. I've tried looking work else where but due to the credit crunch, its hard. I don't believe I'll succeed. I've given up hope in relationships, love and my career.
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reader, revanchist  +, writes (24 March 2009):
You have learned a valuable lesson about placing career above love. Now you need to apply it to your life and open your heart to someone else.
I would suggest you join the Communist Party, which stands for the interests of petty bourgeoisie like yourself. There I predict you will meet a thoughtful, passionate, slightly deformed young anarchist who will inspire you again to believe in the world. And you will love each other for an all-too-brief summer, until you are both heroically martyred for the Revolution.
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