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writes:Hi everyone I'm going to try to make it as short as possible.Ok I met this girl she was really into me I can tell. She would come down and hangout even though she live 1 hr away. We hung out in groups so it wasn't like a date but I like her so much that when I got drunk I showed my bitterside jealousy rage(twice) we got to know each other through text and phone. She know I'm going to tuff times and say she care about me and only wants me to be happy. Anyways I fell in love w her fast cause she is so beautiful nice and smart everything I hope and dream for. Well she always try to tell me to slow down cause she is not in arudh for a relationship. She just broke off w her ex a couple months ago (7 years serious relarionship) anyways we were very attractive to eachother but we already had a bad start which cause by me and she gave me chances. Anyways one night we went clubing after that we got drunk and had sex and the next day she change. She said we need to take a step back cause we are moving to fast. Obviously I was sad and didn't understand her so I figure she just making excuses to let me down slowly. She tried to explain that it was not what she wanted and expext so she want us to be friends now and that would make me happy. Anyways I got offend a little so I was so confuse because we would still talk but things went sour cause I didn't know what she wanted and didn't want to flirt w her cause she ask us to be friends n take a step back. I guess I was hurt n not understand but to myself only so I acted diffrently and so did she but she still show interest cause we still talked not like before. Anyways I think I scared her away but I just didn't know how to handle this situatuon at all. So I guess I suppost text MY DUNmbass but left the work MY out so she thought I called her a DUMBASS so she text me that she don't want to ever talk to me ot text me or see me again..what I'm assuming now is she did like me wanted to take things slowly cause she just got a real serious relationship but I took it the wrong way and acted so stupid which drovw her away. Anyways I love her n don't know what to do. Its been 4 days now and she has not even contacting me. We had some same friends ans I know her bigger sister I never told anyone we had sex cause I care about her and didn't wabt her to feel embarassed cause she told me that we need to take a step back. Please help anyone I really don't know what happen. Obviously I care about her so much and I just want her to be happy n I assume she don't want to be w me so I never pushed my felings further bit acted wierd and a little ku ku what was I suppost to do. Do u think she still cares about me or being mad was a way out for her. Thanks in advance HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your quick responds...It's going to take time for me to heal. Well it hurts so much because I thought she care for me as she showed me and mention to be many times. She always bring not rushing into a relationship with me and I wasn't rushing. I was just in love w her and was working on pulling my life together. I use to make alot of money so now I'm rock bottom so being in a relationship to me was not now but I have potential and hoping she would be around when I pull myself up. I just lost trust in everything and always use her as a punching bag but she was always forgiving until we had sex then she and I was so stress that we agree to take a step back to get to know eachother because of the rocky start we had but I just didn't believe her and felt reject so when I do get drunk I give her a bad time like a bad friend. the I swear I never ever think bad of her as a dumbass. but I was very confused of where I stood was it just friends only or friends to slow things down and get to know us better. with her mix emotions I assume it was only friends only so I acted hurt and annoying sometimes. Then all of a sudden she got so mad and said I text her DUMBASS which for sure I believe I Text MY DUMBASS. cause on a couple of other text. I told her I'am not smart and I was confused with the whole situation growing up as an only child I didn't konw how to handle this situation. Actually I'm a very attractive guy and this never happened to me before. so the only thing I could think is because I'm rock bottom and I have a kid which would be hard for her to accept me because her family could be strict so she wanted me to work on bettering myself. But all I ever gave her was hell even when she was will to take a step back and be friends for now. Can she lose feelings for me so fast after awkwardness of one night sex w did not plan to have. It's hurting me so much now she don't want anything to do with me. I didn't think she could be so cold heart when she knows I can get any girls I want be I'm so honest that I only wanted her. before the accidental message of DUMBASS she was irritate by my blaming and not trusting her liking me so she even said if you feel like I do like you why are you still taking to me. then all of a suddent she used my accidental text Dumbass and disappear. I tried to explain like on my other text where I said i hope we be like strangers. leaving the *dont* word out. so it changes the whole sentence. with the I hope we don't be like strangers. and she still didn't responds...there was another bad text I sent her the next day cause she would not pick up my phone call or text. so I told her out of anger that I'm tired of this whole situation. that I care so much about her and she had broken my heart but I took it like a man. and I was willing to even be friends for her. whatever it took to make her happy. cause that what she wanted us to be friends now and that would make her happy. then I went on say how to do think i feel when she said she don't want to text or talk and see me again!!! that I would look at this as a bad dream and something I can't remember. she I'm so nice to her that everyone would brag about sleeping with her but till now I haven't told anyone because I feel that would hurt her if she didn't like me. That's how much I repect and care for her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
Well it does sound like she wasn't ready for another relationship to be honest. Maybe try talking to her face to face. If that doens't work, you'd be better of nursing your broken heart and moving on. Also, be careful next time you're drunk. Alcolhol makes us do things that we later regret. She wasn't ready. Better to talk to her, see where you stand and move on if she's not interested. Don't wait around.
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