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I'm nervous about becoming a single mother to my twins.

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Question - (8 June 2020) 3 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2020)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi I have just broken up with my partner of 7 years things hadn’t been right with us for months before I ended it we have Twins together were still living together for the time being due to being on lockdown I am going to look for somewhere for me and the children to live but I am so nervous about being a single parent and living on my own am I right in being nervous or is it not as bad as I am thinking thank you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2020):

Hi no my twins are 3 years old and yes I do work

Part time

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (9 June 2020):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntFirstly your partner has a financial obligation to support his children. Hopefully, despite your differences, he is also a decent human being and will continue to play a major part in his children's lives. This is a time when you both need to put your differences aside for the "greater good", i.e. the children you have brought into the world.

Assuming you don't work, now is the time to start investigating what financial help you are/will be entitled to from the state.

Do you have friends with children? Talk and exchange thoughts and ideas on things.

Lastly, yes it will, in all likelihood, be challenging at times. Being parents is difficult. Being a single parent is doubly difficult. Being a single parent to twins . . . well, you know where I am heading with this. However, the most important thing for your children is that they are loved and that the person/people caring for them are happy. Children are like little sponges, noting and feeling everything that is going on around them. If you are unhappy, they will feel it. Hopefully both you and their father will be happier apart, working together for their good.

Good luck. Stay strong. You can do this.

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A female reader, Dorothy Dix Australia +, writes (9 June 2020):

Hi there. I am thinking your twins are newborns, or at least under one year old.

So it is likely you are not working, as you need to stay home to care for them.

This would be financially challenging for you once your partner does move out.

Is it possible for you to get some support from your parents, by staying with them for a while?

Eventually, your partner will probably be moving out and so you won't be able to pay the rent.

You will need all the support you can get.

If not from your parents, you might have to apply to the government for public housing.

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