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writes:About a year ago I dated a guy who I'll call Dave. Dave and I dated for a little over a year and we were very much in love. All was well until I accused him of cheating. He didnt take it very well so he broke up with me because he felt I was too insecure, and jealous. I later found out I was in fact the other woman. I cried myself to sleep every nite for 3 months and it took me long to get over him. Finally when we spoke, he said ugly and hurtful things to me, like i was a caveman that needed to go hide in his cave because my appearance was disturbing. My response to all those comments was very mature and calm but as soon I hung up the phone, i burst out in tears. Weeks later he told me he said all those things to make me stronger. We got past that, and we started flirting and sending each other messages. I got the feeling he wanted me back and he confirmed my intuition with a positive response saying he still does. After all I went through, I still want to be with him but not sure if I should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): You are going back to being the other woman. Remember how hurt you felt when you thought he was cheating, and the pain that must of caused you. There will be another woman somewhere who will go through that pain because of him and you. Surely you wouldn't wish that heart ache on anyone after going through it yourself?Let that man go, after using you as his "mistress", then proceding to insult you, you need to value yourself more. Wait for a man who wants only you and loves and respects you. Take care.
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reader, Mrs.Lonley  +, writes (2 December 2009):
Do not go back to him unless you want to end up getting hurt again. He seems like a very smart guy, knowing what to say at the right time. I fall for his lies. Get rid of him. Leave him alone. Forget his number and move on with your life.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 December 2009):
No don't be with him. He hurt you. There are better guys out there and you deserve someone better than this. He'll only cheat on you and hurt you over and over again. Get away from him.
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