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writes:i am a bisexual man of 21 inclined towards men(i dont have much of erotic feelings for women except when i masturbate forcing myself to think of women).But i am attracted towards the female sex..i.e i love flirting with women.now i am seeing this girl who hints that we have sex. but i am deeply worried about the fact that i MAY not get an erection. so i would like to know whether its possible for me to get an erection when am with a girl(am quite sure that once i manage to get one i would be able to carry it on till we are done).Kindly advise......
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): You sound gay to me, not bisexual. Liking to flirt with women or their company doesn't mean anything towards your sexual orientation.Your sexual orientation is deined by which sex or sexes you are sexually attracted to. It sounds to me like you don't have much attraction towards women.If this is the case don't "try" to have sex with a woman as it may not be who you are.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 you should tell her that your bi-sexuall and this would be your first relationship with a woman so she could understand..and tell her that you really wnat to try it out.. just relax, be romantic ejoy her compony and everything will come ito play, im sure you'll get an erection with enough making out and foreplay gudd luck
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (1 February 2009):
 If you are not going to enjoy having sex with her, you are not going to relax therefore she will not enjoy herself either. Does she know you are Bi-sexual? Maybe you should talk to her about it.Also if you just enjoy the company of girls as friends to flirt with etc but aren't sexually attracted to, have you considered you might be gay? It's not a bad thing, stop being miserable and explore your sexuality, being gay is nothing to be ashamed about and hiding the fact will only hurt you and others in the long run.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 February 2009):
Why are you forcing the issue here?
If you have to force yourself to think of them when masturbating then it may just be that you are not sexually attracted to women at all and shouldn't try to make yourself.
You can be attracted to women in wanting to flirt with them and admiring their beauty (let's face it, we are pretty cool creatures), but that doesn't mean you want them as girlfriends or anything else.
Gay men are very capable of loving women, and the company of women, without wanting to be with one. Don't force it just because you think you should and because she wants to.
Good Luck!! xx
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