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writes:Hi friends I am virgin guy in my twenties. Please read this carefully and come out with a good solution. I discuss with my family all my problems. I was a bit tense those days due to my job and also feeling alone.There was whitewashing going on in the house so all of us slept i the same room. My mom was sleeping right next to me. I just hugged her for a while ,no problem. And then we slept normally. Then while relaxing I opened my eyes and saw her taking my penis in her hand and touching her vagina. I saw her eyes closed while doing so. I could not understand whats happenig. I then turned aside and slept. Was that sex.?? If not why it is still playing on my mind and keeps me nervous and absent all the time.I am not complaining anything just saying that it keeping me tense all the time. My problem is that I have developed a tense brooding state. And a sort of unusual complex.I discussed it with her and she says she couldnt understand what I am feeling But I am hesitant to speek to doctor like I have specified here. Nor could I have any clue to how to get rid of this tense thinking state.So I request you to use the experience and wisdom to solve my problem. If this really clicks I will even pay for the advice as much I can. Ive even tried to forget it but in vain.Any expert solution will be appreciated. U can suggest a practical solution too. Thanks....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I was sexually abused though in my case I was a child and it was my dad not my mom. What your mom did to you is abuse (and you must not blame yourself for it) and as you are in your 20s, I think its time you moved out, if you can't afford to move out on your own just stay with some friends. Its just not a healthy environment for you living with your mom and I am sure some of that tension comes from just having to be in the same space with her, its probably even odder more disturbing if she's carrying on like nothing happened (making you think your losing it), things b/w you can never be normal again I am sorry but they are forever changed. You may be experiencing some guilt and or mixed feelings as well, the body responds to sexual stimulation, its the natural response and it can be very disturbing when the sexual contact is unwanted and/or with an inappropriate person, you mustn't think this means that you are perverted or that you wanted it in some way. Just because you hugged your mom does not mean you asked for it, she took advantage of your affection and perverted it. Whatever you do though never get in a bed with her again. If she did something like that once, its likely she'll do it again. Since you confronted her and she acted so casually like nothing odd happened (or did I misunderstand?), I feel that there is probably a very distorted view in your household about family relationships and your mom's the source of this distortion. What happened with your mom is NOT normal behavior between parent and child. It is incest and a therapist really could help you sort this out, I have a feeling that your relationship has been distorted for a long time, and so I am sure there's a history of abuse even before this event (even if not so blatant), I think you realize it too and that's part of what's bugging you. Being abused can really cause confusion as to what normal healthy relationships look like.Though all this is undoubtedly disturbing and painful don't try and repress it, the sooner you deal with it the better. But you can't deal with it living under her roof.
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (30 April 2008):
Why are you sleeping in the same bed as your mom at this age?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Don't these people have anything better to do? :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): A guy recently wrote in describing the exact same scenario. He was also a virgin and also asked if that was sex. Except it was his aunt, not his mother. What a coincidence...
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 It's called incest.
Maybe this is the first time your mother grabbed your penis, but I'm sure that her getting to that point took some time. You have an unhealthy relationship with your mother, and it's her fault. You seem to still feel excitement over what she did.
I would suggest staying silent and never ever being in a similar situation with your mother. Also, bear in mind that what she did was extremely inappropriate. If you were not in your twenties, it would be called child abuse.
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