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*etticusmaximus
writes:I've known my girlfriend for close to 7 years but we've only been dating for 5 months. She has suffered from depression for a while now and had to move from Miami because of it. We started dating and it was like we had been together for years. Lately she has been relapsing and told me we need to take a break. i said sure. she still wants to be friends and says she needs time to get her life back in order. I must say she asked me to move to San Diego with me and talked a lot about marriage, which i was ecstatic about, for i truly love her with all my heart. I quit my job and enrolled in college in San Diego and all of the sudden, she didn't think i should go with her. she tells me she cant talk to me at all because she is in hypnotherapy and is back on some serious meds. Now she has basically erased me from her life, but tells me that she doesn't want to ruin what we had. My life has been turned upside down about this and i had to withdraw from college. anyway, do you think that someday we will be together again or should i move on forever?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Well, anyways she has pushed you out of her life.
Many of us men would be much, much happier if we learned to follow one simple principle: if they don't want you there, don't insist. We think it's a matter of trying harder. It is not. It's a matter of them wanting you there, and, if they want you there, you don't have to make any efforts. They get you in.
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reader, retticusmaximus +, writes (29 April 2008):
retticusmaximus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSide note, i never moved to San Diego with her and she is not leaving until the fall. I enrolled in the local community college here at home instead, which will in turn help me financially.
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reader, retticusmaximus +, writes (29 April 2008):
retticusmaximus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSide note, i never moved to San Diego with her and she is not leaving until the fall. I enrolled in the local community college here at home instead, which will in turn help me financially.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (29 April 2008):
I'm sorry: you won't be together again. And it's best that way for you. She has changed her mind about being with you, and doesn't care the extent to which she disrupted your life. You don't need such a person.
Saying that she doesn't want to ruin what you had is nonsense. It's already ruined. What are you supposed to do now that you moved that far away from home and quit your job? Act as if nothing happened? And you've already missed this school year. Go back to your life and leave her behind, for good.
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