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I'm a 15 yr old guy and I cant stop masterbating???

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Question - (3 September 2007) 35 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2010)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

how do i get myself to stop masterbating? im 15 years old and im a guy i have problem. ive been masterbating for a long time. i mean a real long time about 3 years and some months. i cant stop idk know y i jus cant help like when i try to control myself it like eats at me. and after its over i feel like god hates me for it cause bad things keep happening to me ever since ive began this kinda life. im like a young kinda sex addict Does any one have any ideas that can help stop myself? ..plz help

thanx i appreciate it so much=D

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010):

ok well im atheist and couldent careless about ''god'' or the bible, but master bation is a natural thing. it may feel bad and wrong,and to some people it can be,but if you really want to know how to stop it, is to not pay attention to any urge.this will be hard at first but it will pat off at the end, many ways is to occupy your self with other hobbies and to avoid staying in any solitary or confine space for large amounts of time. these are the ways to get away from any thought of masturbation. also if these methods do work for you, you shal be intreged to know the reason why these methods have worked on my self and others,(read the bottom of message if you have tried this and it worked/didn't work.

these methods are pleceboes, FAKES, these methods are suposed to trick the mind of the reader, into thinking these methods work and,if you can guess my age write you may be alamed to learn i am an age of but 13

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A female reader, lilbit902 United States +, writes (30 December 2009):

ok let me tell you this... God for one does not hate you.. and i understand where you are coming from when you say you feel like it eats you up and bad things always happend when you do do it... but let me tell you i've been doing it since i was 5 years old... i know it's crazy right but i didn't do it as much until i got to high school.. and it's been bothering me since i'm not 16 and for 11 years i couldn't get rid of it... but what i want to tell you is... God loves us... and i know people say it's normal but in God's eyes it's not b/c it's sexual pleasure toward yourself and then you become dependent on youself once you get older and that really effects your relationship... anyways... i'm not here to preach to you i just wanted to let you know why you think bad things are happening to you... and i keep telling myself that God wants to use me for testimonys for this addiction that i have but who know.. maybe... anyway i'm going to give you a webcite that has been helping me out for my new year resolution!!!

http://www.howtostopmasturbating.com/steps-to-stop-masturbating/

i wish you the best and i hope you well... btw God Bless you!!! =D

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A male reader, Red Green 0289 United States +, writes (23 July 2009):

Here is the reality - your 15, a mild wind is going to make your dick hard... you're just of that age... and God doesn't hate you (he's really busy and doesn't have time to hate each and every one of us!)... stuff happens to all of us, quit thinking that it's because your touching yourself...

You need to make sure that you're not giving up on important life activities to sit at home and pull on yourself. If you're making decisions to NOT go out to do this, then you *may* have a problem, but odds are you do not, you're just going through a phase. You'll grow out if it in a year or so! Good luck and drink lots of water!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008):

Hi there i'm a 34 year old married man and had a real prblem with masterbation in my teens and even in my 20's. I have learnt as someone as mentioned that masterbation is a natural thing and should be explored, however the sin aspect kicks in when you begin to fantasize about other women (or Men) in a sexual nature married or single. It is true which I have also learnt that you can masterbate without the actual thought if sex. This takes some practice but works. If you focus on the pleasure it gives you and not the stimulation of thoughts then your conscience will be free. It is the devils work to make you sin by thinking of individuals. masterbate away man, your semen has to be released form your body anyway and it's cleaner than a wet dream.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008):

dude dont worry about it, its a natural thing!! its healthy for someone your age(and 50, my age btw), and if anything what you should be doing is masterbating more, much more. I do it like 3times a day and stil cant get enought of the shit. Im married and get a great thrill when my wife watches me "shake hands with my man wand" as she and me likes ta cal it.

now bring God onto it there are lots of people not in favour. but if God loves us and wants us to be happy. he for it right? now riddle me this, God is everywhere and see's you doing it all the time, dont feel guilty hes just like my wife and she has no prob at all. my suggestion? group masterbation.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008):

Taking an anti-androgen will zap your desire for sex.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008):

I'm also 15 and used to have a semi problem with masterbation. I found that when i was just sitting around at home with nothing to do i would masterbate more frequently. When i started to do kickboxing and boxing very intensely, i found i was either too tired or wasn't thinking about masterbation all to often. So i believe the key is to find a hobby or better yet a sport and go all out in it. (but it is also healthy to masterbate frequently, probably once a day is fine)

hope this helped

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008):

I'm also 15 and used to have a semi problem with masterbation. I found that when i was just sitting around at home with nothing to do i would masterbate more frequently. When i started to do kickboxing and boxing very intensely, i found i was either too tired or wasn't thinking about masterbation all to often. So i believe the key is to find a hobby or better yet a sport and go all out in it. (but it is also healthy to masterbate frequently, probably once a day is fine)

hope this helped

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A male reader, Uncle Sneaker United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

Uncle Sneaker agony auntMasturbation is not bad, as long as you are doing it in private. Nor is it bad to be thinking about someone - anyone - when you do it. It only becomes a problem if you can't separate the fantasy from the reality, and that isn't going to happen unless you have a real mental illness or psychological problems. Even then, it's a symptom, not a cause.

You aren't a sex addict. This is normal adolescent behaviour, and perfectly normal and acceptable for most adults too. To quote from a well-known mainstream film (by which I mean not a porn movie and in fact a film rated suitable for viewing by children as well as adults - I forget the name but no doubt someone will remember and remind me) if you are "slapping the salami like you're going for a world record, that's what young dudes do".

If bad things are happening to you, it has nothing to do with masturbation. It's NOT God punishing you. It couldn't be, because what you are doing isn't wrong. Don't let ANYONE tell you differently.

If you want to stop then that's up to you. Stopping completely may have serious health implications as has already been pointed out, but there are many people who do live totally celibate lives and the desire will start to diminish after a while if you do stop. Just make sure that you are stopping because YOU really want to stop, and not out of some misplaced sense of right and wrong or because some idiot has told you it's bad.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (2 June 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntI have known some men inject the female hormones ,estrogen or take oral contraceptive to kill their over sex drive.

Some men take it to cure their acnes or pimples.

Oral contraceptive contains the female hormones estrogen and progesterone.

Your male hormones, testosterones is the cause of your orgy.

Sorry , I am not a medical doctor but it works.

Treat it as a last resort if everything fails.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008):

God has provided you wih a penis and allowed you to feel pleasure for a reason, he loves you and he wants you to love yourself. All those people who are telling you that masterbation is wrong, do not love God, they do not follow his teachings because they do not read the bible.

Like Sandman, I also challenge you to read your bible carefully, and provide me with proof that God says that masterbation is wrong. Your listening to people who hate life and think that pleasure is wrong. What kind of God would give you a body for pleasure, but then hate you for finding pleasure. Not a loving father that's for sure.

Stop masterbating if you want, spend all your energies stoping the sexual urge. I think this is totally unchristian, you should be giving yourself pleasure and using the rest of your energies doing good things and following the path that Jesus set. Jesus liked pleasure, he even brought wine to the wedding for everyone to drink. You need to forget about notions of sexual sin and devote your attention to what can you do to make the world a better place.

Even if you don't masterbate, God will provide the tools for you to feel pleasure. Storing up sperm will increase the amount of wet dreams you have. You'll still orgasm even if you don't do it yourself. Why fight what's natural, right and good?

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A female reader, Susan Strict United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

Susan Strict agony auntIf you stop masturbating altogether you are probably at a much higher risk of prostate cancer.

There is significant medical evidence confirming this.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3072021.stm

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn3942-masturbating-may-protect-against-prostate-cancer.html

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,352276,00.html

http://www.advocate.com/news_detail_ektid53528.asp

http://www.religioustolerance.org/masturba1.htm

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/world/2008-04/23/content_6637583.htm

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008):

Thank you all for your advice. I am a 14 year old male, and I need to stop. I just need to pray more. I thank God for stumbling on to this page. I am going to stop doing it, once and for all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008):

well ... about what sandman said, i believe that we should commit adultery nor fornicate too, which makes masturbating ok AS LONG AS u can do it without fantasizing which i find impossible because sex is about the two sex so u there have to be a girl involved whether a a real girl or a picture or in ur imagination. If u can do it with out fantasizing then it's ok, but u still can't be sure when u start so why taking the risk ??? Just try to stop it.

from religions point of view(i'm Christian ), god gave us life as a test, it's like an exam, u succeed u end up in heavens, u fail u go to hell. And also god gave u ur body (on his form!),so u shouldn't abuse it in achieving ur sexual pleasure which never lasts more than few mins

from another point of view, consider the idea of saving urself for ur future wife, if ur not in love a girl right now, this will b hard for u, but if u are, think of masturbating as cheating on her. Plus, what would b ur reaction if u ever discovered that she masturbates, well u should say to urself "i can't judge her as i do it too" but still deep inside u'll feel bad about it.and what if she found out some way, mayb she i'll hate u, mayb she'll feel disgusted. whenever u start masturbating, think about her, still doing it? leave ur god damned dick and grab the phone and call her, talk to her about anything, u can't call her for any reason? start to think of u having sex with her,if u really love her and don't want her to commit a sin like this, u'll should be disgusted of urself.

last but NOT least, try to pray more, and ask god to help u stopping it, try to read more in holly bible, like everyday or something, it will really help u.

good luck,

i hope u can find the solution to ur problem as soon as possible.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008):

The best thing to do is just stop immediately. I've been having trouble with this problem too. The people who say you'll have an orgasm every time you hug a girl if you don't masturbate, are wrong. Your strongest desires to do it will be shortly after you've already done it. After about a week, the desire starts to go away. You can go 3 months without doing it, and all it would take is one time and you would be addicted again; you would feel a huge urge to do it the next day. I agree with what other people have said here: praying will help. The fact is, masturbation is wrong. We need to be saving our bodies for the one we will marry. I'm wishing you the best.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

im a 40 y/o married man, and ive been constantly masturbating for....30 years?

fact is: masturbation is a permanent part of a mans life. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

do not stop masterbating rather reduce the number of time you masterbate. Suppose if u r masterbating daily reduce it to weekly once. masterbating is obviosly good for health. There nothing wrong in it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008):

what I did is I read one of these passages a night which boosted my confidence

Also I noticed that when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend you always want to be with them laughing, and sharing fun moments flirting rather than masterbating with yourself feeling guilty afterwards

Or be with family or friends constantly reminding yourself of the joys of life

I just asked the love of my life out and I have not done it in 2-3 weeks

I feel so much better about myself and love life so much more

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008):

I'm completly abbsessed as well and im only 13 but i'm gay i have to masturbate over gay porn ar my best mate. I also need help but know else knows im gay

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008):

i too am 15. i have completly quit masterbating. 1get rid the thing that gives u urges 2 when u start masterbate think of gay porn (no homo) i did it a i hvent done it once btw i started when i was 13

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008):

Okay, You are perfectly normal. Where do you live ? Cause where I live you're like every other boy in my class. Geez stop being so hard on yourself. "your just exploring your body" Lol i crack myself up. Btw... I'm a girl and I'm 14.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008):

Hello D

I’m a Female

I'm going through the same issue as you right now. I was addicted and I would go out of my way to do masturbate. I would start off fanaticizing about my ex or just something sexual related. I was trying to fill a void I had in my life because I was use to having affection. Not just sexual relations but affection so I dint know how to adjust to being alone because this person was a part of my life.

Like I mentioned I would pretty much do it anywhere, I mean I did have exceptions but I couldn’t control myself after awhile. Honestly it was a feeling I’ve never felt before it felt good I was on a sexual high or something. Then I begin to feel guilty afterwards and I tried to stop but I couldn’t; the pleasures lead me to believe that I shouldn’t stop and it was normal. In addition most of my friends don’t see anything wrong with it. I’m a very secretive person!!! No one knows I have this addiction; they don’t even know I was sexual active. SO I’ve been holding a TON of emotions and feelings inside especially about this. I wanted to get help or talk with some but I wanted to try online chatting first for advice. Congrats you are the first /only person I’ve told this to.

My advice: I completely understand when it comes to feeling guilty and ashamed because that’s exactly how I felt. I really believed that God hated me!!! Honestly I’ve been going through so many issues in my life so I’ve learned to lean on God. I asked him to take away those desires from me! So you should do the same, another thing I did was focus my mind towards other things, get involved in something that you enjoy or trying something new, write out the real reasons why you do it and trouble shoot from there, take it one day at a time. Even if that mean decreasing the # of X’s per day, or doing it once a day until you stop. What I did (which is working for me) was I said to myself: “I’m not going to masturbate for 21 days” Today is my 21th day with touching myself . I’m so Happy!!! I feel Great !!!

I’m not saying it was easy, because for me it wasn’t. I would give myself pep talks and then turn around and start doin it. Sometimes after I finished praying I would do it (which made me feel worse). I’ve tried to stop so many times but this method is really working. I’ve been doing so many other things that I forgot that I haven’t done it.

God can help you in this challenge like he did me! He might completely deliver you instantly! Don’t give up! Also, getting involved in something doesn’t mean you are running away from something

Contact me if you have any questions. I hope I helped

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008):

well ive been doing it well over 10years (btw im only 17 D:) and got sick of it ages ago but i think i have slowed my desire to now, only bout once or twice a week which i am proud of. just cut down on the times you do it i rekon, even though that is sometimes impossible. it is very hard to stop though but im going to do it someday :D

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008):

Look dud I am a 16 Year old Iv been through alot more, so I know Masterbation Problem. I love masterbating,and I too used to masterbate every single day, I started Doing it when I was 13 years old And I also wanted to stop, but you see I just couldnt, so My plan was not to stop but to not do it as often, and so I did. So you cant stop masterbating because you just cant get enough of it you want more than just the method of using you hand to masterbate, so my suddgestion is to go two this website, its not porn, its an educational site that encourages you to masterbate, this site shows you many ways to masterbate, the website is called www.jackinworld.com its a great site so check it out.

(Mod note to poster: personal email addresses are not allowed)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

listen, you have it easy. when i was5, i started by accident. i thought it felt really good. now im 14 and i still cant stop. it really sucks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008):

Look, I know what you struggle with, I am a girl and this is my advice to all who are fighting with this. Men have to guard the eyes, don't look at Ponographic megazines, when you see a women or something that causes you to be tempted do think of them as an object. This of people as your brother and sister it helps. When the thoughts come, beware that some things are not to be fought with you have to Flee, do something to disctract you, try to think about other people. Masterbation is also about selfishness and when you think of others it helps draw you out of yourself. You should also pray and ask God to help you, ank Mary to help you to! Sex and Masterbation are adictive, lets be real here, if you want to stop you have to face real problems in your life. This is a PROCESS it does not stop over night, it is a painful process, but worth it. I to need help! the best thing is ACCOUNTABILIT, tell a good friend about it, get what you do in private out into the light. Nothing will change while you keep it hidden. tThe support of a friend will encourage you. All the best

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008):

hey, yeah i kinda have the same probelm, im 15 cant stop, i tink that if you really want to stop, you can slowly cut down, like if you masturbating every day, cut down to like 4 times a week, then 3 times a week, then try going a whole week without masturbating, im going to try that this week, a whole week without masturbating=)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007):

try this I've had his problem i masterbated for about 5 years now try going out side take a walk go some were away from home dont stay in the house cause that is what causes you to masterbate just get some fresh air if you go to school after school go with your friends have some fun just dont go home and stright to the bath room no eat somthing play games anything just dont look at porn or anything alright.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007):

If you didn't masturbate all the time you'd have orgasm every time you hugged a girl. Be happy you can masturbate =P

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007):

calm down. you'll be fine. you need to ask your priest for advice and pray for strength. you are not a sex addict, you are human and are built to have offspring. if you did not have these urges, then something would be wrong.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007):

You are a young man who just discovered the wonderful world of sex it can be debilitating at first but after a while you get to understand it...taking matters into your own hands can be addittive because unlike a real person it will never say no to you...what you need to understand is...it might be ok as first but after a while it leaves you wanting more...if you had the real thing before than you'd know that there is alot of work involve...and no you're not addited to sex you're just addicted to the 8 seconds at the end when you feel nothing but extacy and pleasure...it can so intoxicating...it leaves you blissful for those 8 seconds and than it's back to reality and you start feeling like crap...the guilt and shame associated with self gratification is normal it means you have a conscience and thst's what makes you human...it's a faze you'll soon outgrow...I hope!!!

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A female reader, AylaJ United States +, writes (5 September 2007):

Haha You'll get over it. I did it 5 times in one day before. SEX with real people and not your hand gets interesting you'll not want to masturbate so much.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007):

All this means is that you are a healthy teenager. It isn't a problem and is perfectly normal.

There is no need to feel bad before, during or after. God doesn't hate you.

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (3 September 2007):

deejuliet agony auntYou are not a sex adict. You are completely normal. ALL teen males (and up into their 20s) have a very strong sex drive and will masterbate daily, even when they have a sex partner! Some days they will masterbate several times. This is all normal and healthy! Plus I believe it is better for you to be satisfying yourself than it is for you to be having sexual relations with a girl at this young age.

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A male reader, Sandman United States +, writes (3 September 2007):

Sandman agony auntIt sounds to me like you have religious convictions against masturbating. Not entirely sure, but that's what it sounds like since you stated "...feel like god hates me for it..."

Let's talk about some of the things going on with you right now. You're 15. Hormones raging. Out of control. You discovered masturbation - and it felt good. I mean, something THAT good should be illegal, right?

But there are some people who believe that masturbation is wrong. I while I can understand the reasoning behing those who preach/teach that message, I don't entirely agree with them. I being a Christian don't believe masturbation to be wrong. Nowhere in the bible does it state that masturbation ITSELF is a sin. As far as sexual sin goes, the bible states that adultery (sex with a married person that is not your spouse or sex outside of your own marriage) and fornication (sex outside of marriage itself, meaning, sex while you're single and not marrieg) are the two sins that god frowns upon. Nothing about masturbation. BUT, the bible DOES speak on issues that are sinful which would be too extensive to talk about on this forum (but if you would like to speak about them you can send me a private message and we'll talk). But basically, porn and fantasizing about a woman while masturbating can be viewed as sinful.

However, you CAN (yes, because I can) masturbate without looking at porn or fantasizing about woman. By merely focusing on the raw pleasure of the act itself, you can fully enjoy a good session without feeling guilty afterwards.

Now that I've said all that, do you want to stop because YOU want to stop (thinking it's obsessive or too much) or do you want to stop because you feel or felt it was wrong? If you think or thought masturbation was wrong, I challenge you to find a biblical passage that states masturbation is wrong. Only you can find the answers for yourself and make your own conclusions.

Hope this helps.

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