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writes:Hi i am 15, and I have these really deep feelings for my 14 year cousin who i badly wanna have sex with, i did it with her once when i went to her place out of town for a week, and it was great, and it brought us closer, she didn't resist, but we still flirt like nothing happened, and im finding it harder wheneveri visit her or she visits me to even talk about it, Im just wondering why this may be happening, or if i should be ashamed of wanting my cousin who i have already done in the past, and should i try and avoid it as much as possible?PS: It has gotten harder and more hard on me to not be close 2 her sexually. I just wanna know why this may be.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): She's adopted...so she's your mother or father's, sister / brothers ADOPTED kid.
In truth, it's wrong. You've had sexual relations with a person who is not blood-related but is still family.
That brings emotional ties, not physical ones.
This whole situation is a guilt situation due to the 'adopted' part.
Can you live with the guilt? Can your cousin? I doubt it.
NOBODY can keep a secret forever. And if you tried, you'd hurt yourself mentally.
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reader, girboy6  +, writes (10 March 2010):
I agree with searbear because...
1.Sex with a family member is illegal
2.since your over 15 and sshes under its illegal
3.HAVE EITHER OF YOU BEEN CHECKED FOR STIs. Wha if you gave her one or she gave you one. Ill tell you, Good luck explaining to your parents
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reader, ILoveHim101 +, writes (1 February 2010):
I sincerely understand. Im way younger than you. And cousin actually just came on to me one day. I didnt stop him because I really didnt want to. I really dont know how but I know I lead him on, but I wont stop. We havent had sex, but were getting really close to it. I want to have sex with him. But I think about the consequences. I still want to have sex with him. So far we have had dry sex. We both have to contain how hormones. And its really hard for me because I fantisize about him alll the time. And he is just breath-taking. He lead me on first, and I never stop him. And I dont think I ever will. I think you should go with your heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): I'm 15 (male) and I had sex with my 6 year old female cousin! So I say go for it just use a condom or maybe two if your having sex with some girl under the age of 8 use 3 condoms like me
good luck!!!!!
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reader, michael111  +, writes (23 February 2009):
ok ill answer all your questions 1st it is legeal in 5 countrys to have sex with your no directly blood rated family they are bolgera america australia russia uguslavia.
i do agree tho before you do have sex/intercorse with a relation your should talk to them ask them if he/she thinks its the best idea.
and its perfictly norm to feel you want to have sex at 15 you have so many hormones going through unfortunetly i went through puberty at 10 years of age and im 15 now.
look all i can really say i waited 15 years old till i lost my virginity and not losing your virginity when your young is a lot better because once your have gone through 5 years of puberty it actully beilieve it or not you actully get expirince the sexual intercorse more with in your self and your partner all i can say for guys just hold it out for as long as possible and masterbate and girls just play with your selfs or find a nother girl who is eager to have sex and just explore my gf did that and she said it helped me relax alot and didnt make me urge for sex.and if you do have deap feelings for a relation just talk to them tell them how you feel it might take the pressure off.oh and for the male from canada if you feel like your cousin is neglecting you make her feel specail so she feels wanted. remember always use protection 2 condoms not 1 2 just in case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): wow u r way to young! Im 16, and I understand the feelings your having, but afterwards u r going to be so freaked and are going to try and hide it, feel ashamed, etc. Plus if her parents find out! U would be in deep shit.
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of any in-bred birth defects. But this reason is not justifiable.
Biblical verses justifying family marriages between Israelites, as ordered by God to keep Israel pure, is not enough for you to have sex with a relative. It belongs solely to the Israelites, and not even true for the Israelis. Therefore, such could not be a sound basis "for doing" your cousin.
My cousin and I go out frequently, we have some fun and I even slept over at her place, a few times, very remote from everyone. We sleep in the same room, she is on the bed and I slept on a mat beside her bed. With the lights out, we could have made the nights longer. But being alone with her with her physical attractiveness is not a license for me "to make love" to her.
I like her very much. No, I love her very much. But everything is platonic and sexless. Not that I wouldn't like to have sex with her. Definitely, I would and it would be fetishly erotic, wouldn't it? But I mustn't.
But of course, we have to have our sensibilities straight. To hell with the law about incest lets go to the present day norms observed. Love has no bounderies but norms sets limits. Norms are observed by rational people and that separates us from the animals.
Sex for animals is for propagation of its species. Sex for us, humans, is to express love and lust but the expression must conform with the existing norms. A norm simply ask the question - is it normal?
I suffer because I have to follow a norm. It is better to suffer the pains of non expression of love than to agonize over the consequences of what a forbidden love might bring. I love my cousin more than any person I have previously known. But to have sex with her, guilt will follow - maybe it will not be mine, maybe it will be hers.
Sex is inferior than love. You can love a person and feel good all the time, afterwards, which is untrue with sex with a cousin.
If both of you (you and your cousin) are ready to suffer any unforseen and known consequences - gossip within your community, birth defects because of inbreeding, conflict between family members because of the acts - go ahead. Love is free. Love is after all, something the angels fear to thread.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 A male reader, karldlewis .
i think you've mistaken me for sarcasm.
its his cousin...
child are our future... are webbed toed inbred future..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): again im the original poster, i have to reply and say , that ive done it with other ppl 15 - 16, but its wierd, i reallly hate this, but i cant get over it. And i believe pppl 13 - 15 can be consenting with each other, but im not sure. another thing, shes only around 4 months younger and has been more sexually involved then me, any other statements? and another thing. she let me on the first time, it wasnt my idea.
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reader, karldlewis +, writes (1 January 2009):
I'm going to agree with Dr. Lovely even though when I first read the title I thought it was sick. This seems to be more than just a little lust and a want for danger. What I think you should try to do is talk and spend time with her instead of the relationship being all about sex. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Firstly I think it's illegal to have sex at your age in Canada (tell me if I'm wrong) 2 - teenage boys have hormones which rage out of control (i've been there) 3 you are obsessing over your cousin (adopted) because you have a lot of contact with her and are close 4 just spend time away from her and you'll soon obsess over someone else. This answer doesn't address the underage sex part and for that all I can say is masturbate a lot and WAIT!
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 If i were your cousin, I would have reported you and put you behind the bars.. !! you better Thank God i ain't ... !!
Look at your Age and then talk, Kid.. !! Grow up.. !!
G'day
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (1 January 2009):
Hi.
I'm Dr.Lovely. Dr.Vendetta's cousin. i'm filling in for him because not every MOD here loves him and think's he's too harsh on people here, so i'm here to take a different approach.
YAY LOVE.
aww how cute. i mean i think its wonderful that you guys are in such love that you can be that close. YAY aw good for you. i just hope its legal in your country other wise you might get in a little bit of trouble.
GOOD FOR YOU.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (1 January 2009):
NO NO NO NO NO!
what is with young kids wanting to jump in bed with eachother. whether she is related or not you can't do that. it would cause so many problems in the family. you may not be blood related, but you are still related! you're still family.
leave her alone and take up a hobby!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Honestly does she want sex or are you pressuring her? she's only 14. Your both too young to be having sex, even more so her as she's a year younger than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): i am the original poster, and i forgot to mention she was adopted and we have no blood relation what so ever. anything else i should know?
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reader, searbear +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Firstly, you're both underage.
Secondly, she's your COUSIN which is very immoral in any case no matter how much you like her- being best friends should be as far as you go.
Thirdly, if you're parents/uncle aunt find out, your gonna have to beg for forgiveness because i'm sure they won't be impressed and if they're like my parents they'll be highly ashamed.
Is there not other girls you could be sleeping with? Any girls who are legal and not your family?
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reader, LonelyMan +, writes (1 January 2009):
you have to stop its not safe and healthy imagine if the rest or yours and her family find out everyone will be ashamed and you will feel defeated end it now and go find a girlfriend or a mutual sex partner
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