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*drienneisrad
writes:I still like my ex boyfriend, and i know now that he doesnt want to date me. When we talked about it, his exact words were "i dont want any relationships, i just wanna fuck." Do you think if we kept sending time together that he would change his mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): Good for you! Youre going to be a lot happier now youre without him!
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reader, adrienneisrad +, writes (13 June 2009):
adrienneisrad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the advice. It really made me open my eyes. So last night, after I posted the question, he started talking to me and he made it clear that he doesnt want anything from me and if he did then we would chill. It hurt but I realized Im better than all of this. So after last night I have decided I'm never going back to him. Thanks again everyone. I appericate it.
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reader, DearVicki  +, writes (13 June 2009):
not a chance. he said it himself he just wants sex and the more you give it to him the more hurt you will be in the end. harsh i know but he is just using you and thats not fair. you need to end it now. take some time to yourself to move on and then find someone who wants all of you not just to sleep with you. this guy is clearly not ready for a relationship and by sleeping with him he has no need to what a relationship with you as he is getting just what he wants
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (13 June 2009):
 No, he will not change his mind because if he gets his way with you he will NOT respect you. If he doesn't respect you, he can not love you.
The best thing to do is to move on. Realize he is a cad for even asking you to do this. A good man would not put a woman in this position.
I will say if he sees you out there having fun, living a full life without him...this may make him realize he's lost a good thing. But then I guarantee that you will not want him back.
Been there, done that. Speaking from experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): No way. He basically just wants to be f*** buddies and thats horrible to do to anyone who feels things for the other person. I suggest just not bothering with him as everyone else has said. Hes not worth it and go find someone who actually wants to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Definitely not
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reader, baby_tinney +, writes (13 June 2009):
 It sounds to me like he wants to keep you around for now to get what he wants from you.But I think when he finds somone else.He will be gone for real.So dont give him your time just to get hurt in the end.The time he is wanting from you could and should be your time to get over him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): No I don't think he would. Try to move on from him. You'll never be able to get over him if you're spending time with him, and if you're around him so often he might get the impression that you'll be up for sleeping with him sooner or later.
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reader, hearthelper  +, writes (13 June 2009):
I can't believe it the exact thing just happened to me two days ago and let me tell you it turned out to be one of the best things that could happen. Heres why:
I fell for my guy when I thought he was one of the sweetest, emotionally mature, and amazing man i've ever connected with in years. but when we broke it off he found a new gf 3 days later and i was left depressed and brokenhearted for 5 months already. Then last week i wanted to see him in person for the first time in half a year and even though he's still with his gf, he wanted to start hooking up with me on the side.
he told me straight out that i wasn't allowed to get attached to him, kapish? and he couldn't give me what I want. It brought me down so bad because I really loved him and no matter what I said he made it clear that he didn't give a crap about me anymore and was just using me.
It was great to see the light, and saw how he's not the same person whom i fell for. In fact, he's the complete opposite, and I don't even want to meet this person. He's also a Gemini, which means they are two-faced and crazy. So are Scorpios. They will sting you when you least expect it. Believe me I know!
The guy won't fall for you if he knows he's just not that into you. Read the book and watch the movie. You get involved with him and you'll learn the hard way that he will be emotionally toxic for you and you'll be left alone and heartbroken. Start loving yourself in order to attract the right men for you.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 June 2009):
No, if you keep spending time with him it will do just the opposite. Trust me it's emotionally draining to be his friend with benefits. So save yourself extra heartache from this guy and don't do that. The best thing to do is don't give him the time of day. I know it sounds so backwards, but whatever. Trust me, it works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): I give him full marks for honesty. He knows he's not mature enough for a relationship. Don't waste your time with him.
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