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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a trust problem with my bf of nearly a year now. things were never really..well great. A month after we officially were togheter, he texted his ex telling her he missed her that she should come to town. i caught him the day he moved and left him then and there. We got back toghether after he promised he would never do it again but then he did it..on my bday...i left him again. We got back together after hhim being such a sweetheart when i got really sick. Things were going really well but his ex would call him as soon as he would leave the town. I found out that they were calling eachother for a full weekend and he told me that she was being razy telling him that if he wouldnt call back she would go to his job and shit like that. I left him again. Then a month later around christmas he sent me this letter and you know the rest....i never heard of the ex again ( he let me chek his facebook and phone whenever i would ask) But then last week this girl he was seeing just before he met me went to see him at work and they started texting..nothing really extravagent but he didnt tell me. Has they had planned to see eachother on a sunday i asked him what he was doing that day and he said well im not sure yet and you baby ? Then we had a big fight about it beaucse he figured out i cheked his phone and said that he just didnt think about it because they hadent made a statement of seeing eachtother and tht he would tell me right away when he would do somehthing with her.I still chek his phone and saw tht they didnt plan to see eachother yet. But then i saw he was texting this other girl that apparedntly he knows from before beause she replied somthing like im glad to hear from you .. the thing is that he deleted the messages. If it is just a friend, then why is he deleting it...is it because he doesnt want me to worry. They had planned to see eachother today=.. when i asked him what he was doing today he said he wss going to see his old firend out of town tht i know quite well.He prooved to me i can trust him but what if he went to see this girl, shhe has a boyfriend and says it prouldy on fb ..then why is he hidding it from me ? And if he did hide it from me, what im a supposed to do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013): Oh my goodness. where to begin with this one!! For one Im just going to tell you, just because he lets you check his Facebook, and phone doesn't mean you should trust him, or that he doesn't have anything to hide . I had a similar situation and yet he was still cheating.Next...why would you continue to go back to the same guy when he keeps doing the same thing, I think its very dumb to trust him after the first few incidents. I believe in a second chance, I even believe in a 3rd chance depending on the situation but this is more than 3 times he's done this to you not to mention you had to find out, he Did NOT tell you.NOw ask yourself, if you hadn't found out, would he of told you? And be honest, because I donot know him but based off of what you've said, I don't think he would have. It seems as if he can get away with it,with you. Like most women you want to give him the benefit of the doubt but honey you should leave this boy (notice I said boy) you deserve so much better than that! Because if he hides something as small as a text message then no telling what else he would hide from you. find someone who will be open and 100% honest with you, there is someone out there for you and he is not it!oh also it doesn't matter if the girl has a boyfriend or if they are just friends, the point is that he wasn't honest or open about it!communication is the key to a relationship
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