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writes:Ok so I posted here b4 about my girlfriend's boss sending her inappropriate text messages at all hours of the night. I've gotten some good feedback but here are a few follow up questions. Almost everyone says to confront her about this right now but I'm not sure if thats the right thing to do. Here's why. I've violated her trust by looking in her phone to see these text messages to begin with and second although clearly innapropriate there's nothing to suggest that this has gotten out of hand. At least I really don't think it has because I know the kind of person she is. Trust is an important factor in a relationship and by me looking in her phone it says I don't trust her. I'm so confused. I love her and I know our relationship is pretty solid but I just think she'll flip out if I tell her without more proof. What do you think? Thanks
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Hey - I'm with you on this. Don't confront but maintain your suspicion and keep watching. If you confront with little evidence, cheaters become more careful to deceive. If theres nothing happening - then no harm has been done. If there is - then you are forewarned and forearmed. Good luck - hope it's nothing.
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reader, Pearl123 +, writes (4 September 2007):
I think you should try and talk to her. You might have violated her trust by looking through her phone, but then again if she has been recieving these texts and there's more than meets the eye, she has been violating your trust in much worse ways. If it is innocent, then i'm pretty sure she will forgive you for going through her mobile as you have said your relationship is pretty solid. It's not as if you've been having an affair, and you can apologise to her for doing this.
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