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male
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have to break up with a girl that I love, because she is married and I can't settle down with her. I have never told her how I feel about about her, partly to keep a feeling of being in control and self protection. I know that she has considered walking out of her marriage for me, but I think that she is reluctant because I hold back my feelings for her so much, that she doesn't actually believe that we would have a relationship if she was single. She has told me that she loves me a few times, but I always push her away. I would like to move on from her, because I would like to settle down with someone and have a fiance. I told the married girl that I love my fiance (which is also true). Would it always bother me that I wasn't truthful with my feelings and wonder if things would have turned out differently if I could give more of myself to the relationship? Can I move on to marry another, with this always hanging over my head? I am determined to make the marriage to my fiance work out and be honest now after 2.5 years of having an affair, but it also seems very risky, since I also have to give up a great job and move far away from here and from my family. There would be no second chances or turning back. Please help.
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reader, stawberry01  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 hiYou have been in a long turn relationship with the woman you love but having an affair with an woman who is married. If you love the woman you are supose to be married to how can you have an affiar fo so long you should finish with the married woman and make a life with your girlfriend but dont life a lie follow your heart not your head things may not be good now but they will get better.
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