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writes: Difficult situation, I'm damn escort, material girl, think I fell in love with a guy that does not treat me like that... I like him in some ways, but hate myself or at least don't feel well if don't get any profit from him... What the hell i should do?? I'm used to guys that pay attention to my appearance give me money, invest in me, buy nice presents and must admit didn't mind at all... I'm just LIKE THAT... Like when i get profit from guys .. I know something is wrong about this whole shit but don't know what... Tonight i told this guy to get away from me, Just to gooo, disapear and find somebody else, which will better suit him. I realy do feel something about this guy, i cannot deny but what is the problem?? I'm an escort , i'm with them as long as i do have profit, means as long i have presents given, money, i don't need to pay and so on... I know it sucks but it is like that... I fell good when im treated like that... I know is something that is not quite good with whole thing but that's how im am CANNOT change myself or it needs lots of time and don't know how at all ... So i told him to vanish , i told him not for him, i told im an escort at least a kind and would not suit him... I love him and was honest, truly i would leave him for somebody who has more money and gives to me. Don't know what to do!!! He said he likes me, how i am, wants to be with me, and only if i deny the fact that there is something real between us and that i really want him to leave then he would make such a step... Couldn't say that, but really don't know what to do,we're one month and 10 days together and didn't get any present from him, at least not valuable one... And i feel damn bad about it... I have only kinds of escorts friend, when we were sitting to have some drinks tonight , my friend told me how she got nice necklace from some guy ... Immidiately i felt bad, like im wasting my time for nothing, he noticed it and the whole thing afterwards was just inavoidable... I like my being with him, but feel bad after, just because i'm not used on such relationship, such treatment, that's all... To pay my drinks when out with guy for me is virtual category! Don't know what to do... Should i simply leave him, to find better choice or what ... im just material girl that's all and cannot do anything about it , really , i tried but in vain ... He is going to Austria for the weekend, and what when he will come back.. if he bring me some nice present i will fell bad because i told him what i am... if he doesn't i will fell worse... Any suggestion?
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reader, samohir +, writes (31 August 2007):
samohir is verified as being by the original poster of the question You have right Oblivia.. The starting point u make is on its place completely.But, the point is , that he HAs means,he is well situated if i may say so.
I wouldnt looked at him if he wasnt,at least not on that way. Thats the main issue.
My confusion is,wouldn't a guy that realy wants to keep you,buy u a present. I mean this is just the beginning of ours being together, be it relationship, or just fun. Wouldnt he care to buy you some nice,esspecialy when for ex. he is going on a weekend (weeding of his friend actualy) in France and coming back with empty hands!!?
Im not quite sure, maybe im just used to being treated on such way. But i know from my experience , that i guy that doesent even bother to buy anything on the beginning is not putting any value on you. I love him, i like his presence, i miss his touch, but i cant simply stay with a guy that has such way of conducting towards woman.
Maybe i didnt give him a chance, but does anybody need a chance to be given to buy a present?
True im an escort,i wasnt always, had different experiances before that tought me that man who appreciate you is investing in you also. Maybe im wrong, but certainly he ll pay attention by buying something nice(as much as can he afford) and HE/This guy can afford much.
So, am i just having feeling that im being manupulated and used in certain way , or is it reality?
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 What makes this guy different compared to all the other guys out there who wouldn’t (or couldn’t) spend a penny on you? You wouldn’t even look their way, so why is this man different? Maybe you are actually truly in love with him and the reason you are is that he actually respects you more than the other men do.
You don’t write much about who he is. Does he have the means to give you all these things you want but still he won’t? Then it could be that he wants to be special to you. It could be that he doesn’t want to treat you like the other men does, like an escort girl. And maybe he hopes that you will look differently upon him and develop other feelings for him than the usual escort girl feelings towards a client. What if he doesn’t want to spend his money on an escort girl but on a wife, or at least an exclusive girlfriend?
Think about it. It could be worth a try. You are still very young and you want to have fun and be courted, it’s nothing wrong with that, but do you really want to live like this forever? If this man has all the things you are looking for except for the fact he doesn’t buy you things, then don’t give it up on him too easy. Your friends will not marry you, don’t listen to them. And as the others write, continue being honest to him about your feelings. You write that you already told him about the escort/material thing and it might be very likely he senses and understands the mixed feelings you have about wanting to be a material girl, but still also, as you write here, would feel bad if he actually started treating you like an escort girl. Sounds like you are in love with him and rather want him to treat you like a girlfriend.
Give him a chance before it’s too late, you might get things from him that none of the other men will ever give you. Love might just be one of the things.
And think more of yourself. They could pay, they probably have a lot more money than you, but you are not an investment project item! You are a person!
Wish you all the best!
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Are you Charley of this years big brother, because you sound like her.
Are material things that important, more important than love. Not in most peoples lifes i hope.
Why should he pay for all your drinks, meals out, presents ect. What do you do apart from take?
I think you should leave the guy alone and maybe he will find someone that loves him for him, and not what they can get.
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Honestly, if you really love him; or believe you do. It's better to give it a chance. The problem with you, anyone can change, as soon as they want all they need is the desire to change. I've been in such situations; i know it's hard, dear lord was it hard. But it's worth it if you're in love. Another thing is; you're being pressured (indirectly) by your Escort friends. My sister for a long time stole money from my mom, her excuse, "All my friends always show off their money, i always felt bad that I didn't have any." and in the process of trying to be like them, and fit in with them, she hurt someone who truly loved her, and who she truly loved.Personally, I don't think it's absurd of you to expect him to pay for your drinks. the best thing to do is to tell him the truth, everything. Come clean about your feelings, and give him a chance to make his move. Than, if things must be that way; end it.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Just tell him that you dont want to be with him anymore. tell him that you want things that he dont give you and that you want a man with money and that will give you everything that you want dont lie to him tell him you would just get up and leave him for a guy with money. thats all i can tell you because its the truth so leave him and wait for a guy who gives you lots of money and then be with him. if thats what you want i dont know!
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