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*hatrabbit
writes:I still like the girl that i went out with last summer, but we got in a fight, and NOW its all good, i still like her very much but i don't know how i can approach her about going out again. I need urgent help.I was seeing this girl last summer, we went on a few dates and it was very nice, her signals were really good and i knew this was going somewhere. I was very attached to this girl and liked her very very much. But then one day she wanted to talk to me to tell me that she's still not ready to be in a relationship because she had came out of one 5 months prior and told me that she was confused, she knew that she was wasting my time, but i wanted to give her time to think it through. Then two months after, she hit me with the "we don't click very well" knockout punch. And so I went crazy and sent her a pretty harsh text message. And now; 5 months later; I sent her a message to apologize for my harshness and she replied saying that she's the one that is supposed to apologize and that she deserved it and more. She says that she was really confused and didn't have a better excuse to tell me and thought my good nature would ease the blow. I was sick of seeing her in university because it brought back memories that i didn't want to look back at again because its very painful. How can I approach the situation to get her back?
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reader, phatrabbit +, writes (25 January 2010):
phatrabbit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKeep em coming..
Alright ill give it a shot ladies thank you very much.
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (24 January 2010):
hi i think you should just be friends with her for now she needs time to get over the last relationship she was in so give her time and then she will speak to you and want to be with you when she is ready she obviously is interested as she has given you signals, just be patient
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Take care of your feelings by finding a green light to go on before proceeding. When she said you "don't click very well", that is typical girl code for not being into someone. Before you put yourself out there again, minimize your risks by clearing that she doesn't deal with not being into you, and IS into you.
If it were me I would arrange to share a brief and safe friendly dialogue, such as morning coffee. Then I would casually and confidently say, "Remember when you said we don't click; I wonder if you think that now." And not be anxious about the answer, just let her respond and be happy anyway.
Best wishes - I hope you let us know how it goes -
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