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Do you think I just took things the wrong way???

Q.   hi hope you can help theres this man that i have liked for a while and out of nowhere he asked to be my friend on facebook he then sent me a message asking how i was n where i work , we were sending each other messages for a few days running the...

A.   29 March 2010: well i think you just read the signals wrong and he just wants to be friends or that he doesent want to hurt you if he is a bad boyfriend just wait and see if he gets in touch if not then forget him , ... (read in full...)

I always seem to be he one initiating communication in my LDR.

Q.   Hi Me and my ldr gf have been talking alot when we first started dating but after like 1 month it begin to slow down. she stop texting me first and calling me first so i have to be the one who initiate the call. i mean she pick up when i call and ...

A.   10 February 2010: hi you should not text her or call her for a while like a week and of she is interested she will be in touch or just ask her if she is interested still maybe she does care but she knows your always there ... (read in full...)

He's been a commitment phobe, now am I becoming one?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are planning moving in together, marriage children the works after a long time together. However in the past he has been a bit of a commitment phobe and on one or two occasions things have got serious and hes done a runner. All of ...

A.   10 February 2010: well moving in together is a serious commitment to somebody if you are having doubts then you should talk to him and maybe he can work out with you how to fix what ever is giving you doubts if not then you maybe a couple who just want to be ... (read in full...)

My husband gives more attention to other women and it is making me jealous.

Q.   Could anyone please help me i realised that i do not like it when my husband give more attention or talks more to other women then he does with me. I also relised i am jelous but its getting worse. And i do not want him to think that i do not trust ...

A.   10 February 2010: i think no wonder you are jeolous if he is treating you like that calling you fat thats not a guy who loves you and if he is talking and giving his attention instead to you but to another women he is not interested in you anymore and will cheat ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I can see a future with her, other times I just want to break up.

Q.   Dear, i've been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half we had a hard start she's 8 years older than me. but since 10 months ago we decided to go for it. for the last 2 month i've been going through ups and downs sometimes i feel i adore h...

A.   10 February 2010: if you really loved her you would not want anybody else sounds like your not sure about being with her and why do you keep breaking up of you are so in love ... (read in full...)

Is he keeping these past 'sex texts' as a trophy or something to get off with?

Q.   About 6 months ago I found very explicit sex texts on my husband's phone. The texts were between him and his (female) boss. I filed for divorce (because of this and his controlling/bullying behavior)but put the proceedings on hold because I was ...

A.   10 February 2010: how do you know its not more than just texts he should not be sending to his boss at all and should have told her to stop sending him them he is the one ruining your family not you / you have nothing to feel guilty about. how can you trust him when ... (read in full...)

New to romance and all I've got to practice with are college guys

Q.   So I've recently matured quite a bit from the shy, quiet girl I was in highschool who only had one male friend- and he was gay. I've lost a little weight, changed my hairstyle (I used to cover my eyes with my bangs all the time), and dress better. ...

A.   4 February 2010: hi you just have not met the right guy yet not all guys expect experienced guys you should not put them all in the same box as some guys will be good decent guys experience comes with time when a guy wants you to listen to music some guys it means ... (read in full...)

My boyfriends sex drive is much higher than mine

Q.   My boyfriend and i love sex. But he wants it alot. He respects when i dont but when he cant get any from me he jacks off and he watches alot of porn. He says he is just like that and he cant help it. Why does he have such a high sex drive and is it ...

A.   4 February 2010: is it the difference in sex drive that bothers you or him watching porn the sex drive is not a problem if he accepts that sometimes your not in the mood we are not in the mood all the time if its the porn then you need to tell him how it makes you ... (read in full...)

I don't have a mother or aunt to ask

Q.   Hi there well see my dad raised me up and talked to me about my peroids and how it works. i think it tooked alout of guts for my dad to talk women stuff with me. So my friend from shool told me the best is that you dont bath or wash it down there on ...

A.   4 February 2010: hi its even more inportant to wash down there when you are on your peroid but every morning you shower wash down there... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to be glad he is not somebody other girls would be all over?

Q.   When it comes to height and weight, I'm right smack-dab in the middle of all that is average for someone my age. I'm just under 5'5" and 117 lbs. My boyfriend of over five years, however, is not what you would call "petite". He has a foot of height ...

A.   4 February 2010: i think you have insecurities this is why you want him to be not noticed by women but you should not have to worry as you should trust him whether he is good looking or not and whether he would be attractive to women or not some girls like big guys ... (read in full...)

My husband has a serious drinking problem

Q.   i've been married for 10 years; my husband has a drinking problem and it's worsening. He has promised to attend AA meetings. I'm thinking of leaving him. Is it right to leave him at this point when he has promised to attend AA meetings?...

A.   4 February 2010: no if he has agreed to attend meetings then he is trying to get better and you should support him in doing this and be proud that he is taking the first step ... (read in full...)

He says he has stopped talking to his ex but they are best friends, it drives me crazy

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. He still talks to his ex-girlfriend. They've been apart for years now and she also has a boyfriend. I know he has no feelings for her and I know he loves me, but it still makes me feel ...

A.   4 February 2010: yes it is wrong you should trust him and believe what he says your jeolousy will drive him away if she has a boyfriend then you have even more reason not to worry as she is not interested in him and him not in her ... (read in full...)

I just wish she would try to understand ...

Q.   hi. im 18 and im with a girl who i love very much, but have had some past and present issues that are just bothering me too the point of no return. im so jealous lately and here are the reasons why. first off..she left me and cheated on me the last ...

A.   4 February 2010: hi no wonder you dont trust her if she cheated on you the trust is broken its ok for her to have friends but not firting with them thats wrong you should not have stopped contacting your friend i think you should forget her as you cant trust her and ... (read in full...)

He is going clubbing in Greece and I'm scared he will cheat on me

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and i feel like we're good at the moment. There's just one problem- he's turning 18 soon (he's a year older than me) and going on holiday to a clubbing island in Greece with all his mates. I'm very worried ...

A.   3 February 2010: i think you should trust him as if he loves you he will not cheat on you who says sex drys up when your married and have kids does not have too you should not try to control a man ever ... (read in full...)

Help! I want to be friends with my ex thought I don't know why... why do I care so much?

Q.   So this is the deal. I HAD been with my girlfriend for 7 months. Sounds not a long time i know, but still it was my first love. When i met her she was great...full of life, love etc etc though then we hit a glitch..3 months in she broke it off ...

A.   3 February 2010: i dont think you did anything wrong she obviously did not love you much as she went to her ex and was contacting him why do that if she was happy with you but you should not have read her journal ... (read in full...)

Advice needed. How can I be as hot as a porn star!!!?

Q.   How can I be as hot as a porn star? I already act the part - well, no, I don't ACT, I really do enjoy sex and I'm very open to everything my boyfriend likes or wants to try. I never say no until I've tried it (except for threesomes, I wouldn't like ...

A.   3 February 2010: implants are your choice exercise will tone your bum certain creames you can use for celiute exercise will help you to lose weight ... (read in full...)

I am tired of settling for the "not now" excuse!

Q.   I have have an issue with my boyfriend or x now. We've been dating for almost three years now. I have a daughter and he has a son that recently moved away a year ago. Since his son has been gone he stopped doing family things together kinda like ...

A.   3 February 2010: yes you did do right he is messing you around why say lets move in together then he changes his mind same with the marriage thing why cant you live with somewhone when you have diabities that is a excuse maybe he just doesent really want commitment ... (read in full...)

I really want to squirt. PLEASE help me out!

Q.   Hello. When my boyfriend and I first started messing around he was fingering me and rubbing my Gspot. I've rubbed it before while masterbating but never got to far with it because it had always been a bit uncomfortable. Well, while he was down there ...

A.   3 February 2010: hi nothing wrong with you physically but if you have the urge to pee then you should thats the problem i have had the same problem myself ... (read in full...)

I'm crazy about her but she keeps telling me she is scared

Q.   Okay, back in November I met this woman on a blind date through some friends. It was love at first sight for both of us. I knew from the moment that I first saw her she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Things went a little too ...

A.   3 February 2010: well if she is not ready for a relationship then you have to just be friends and wait until she is ready give her time ... (read in full...)

"If he doesn't like you then he won't call!" Is this true or could he just be shy?

Q.   This is a question for all the men out there... I was wondering if the whole, 'if he doesn't like you, he won't call' thing is true. I'm only 16, and am wonering if guys just won't call/talk to you just becuase they don't like you, or are some...

A.   3 February 2010: some guys are just shy and have to build up the courage as they are afraid of not being wanted after all but some guys are just not interested ... (read in full...)

Is it just me... Am I paranoid?

Q.   My bf of 2 years is super sweet we hang out almost every day and he never wants to go out with his friends but ive never stopped him from doing anything, hes just so infatuated with me, always wants to see me, texts me i love you in every message he ...

A.   3 February 2010: you need to trust him he loves you very much he is just friend with the girls thats all dont lose him because you are accusing him all the time ... (read in full...)

Ideas needed! How can I get my husband to have us do something nice for our anniversary?

Q.   My 6th wedding anniversary is coming up at the end of the month and I keep asking my husband what he wants to do or if he wants to get a sitter, and he just blows me off every time. I don't know if I should just get a sitter. I'm half tempted to ...

A.   3 February 2010: i would leave it up to him as if he wont appreciate it and is not interested then there is no point and neither of you will enjoy yourselves... (read in full...)

Do I go back to my ex girlfriend or continue seeing this guy?

Q.   I am a bisexual female who is dating a man but my ex girlfriend i have dated for three yrs before wants me back. I just got with my boyfriend and like him but i still have feelings for my ex gf. She hurt me and cheated on me and my bf has issues ...

A.   3 February 2010: forget both of them one has issues with the ex and the other one you cant trust and will cheat on you again... (read in full...)

Should I keep on trying to fix things?

Q.   I dated a single mother for 2 and a half yrs. During the first 3 months I kept a lie about sleeping with my ex before I met her. To me I felt at the time I shouldn't have to spill out some thing in my past in which I wasn't really happy with and ...

A.   3 February 2010: hi i think you should forget her as she should not make you lose friends and not aloud out if she cant trust you it wont work i dont know why she does not trust you as the mistake was before you met so you did not cheat on her and were free to see ... (read in full...)

I need to know if she is lying or telling the truth please help.

Q.   ok i think my ex is lying to me about having a boyfriend. because just a couple of days ago on facebook she found out i had a girlfriend and then she says that she has a boyfriend who supports the same football team as me. but the night my ex found ...

A.   3 February 2010: i think she still has feelings for you i dont think she is lying though... (read in full...)

Weighty issue...

Q.   heyx at 5ft 2 and 11 stone, i really want to lose weight (need to) but at the same time i love to binge and dont think i can give it up completely. So i was thinking about eating 600 calories a day for 5 days in the week, 3000 calories for one day ...

A.   3 February 2010: well exercise will certainly help and cutting down on the binge eating too yes it will certainly help if you are eating less calories... (read in full...)

Why is everything I'm doing to make myself happier always so stupid?

Q.   What is this indicating for my future? My boyfriend of over three years and I have been discussing marriage and babies for about a year now. And every time I tell him I want to work as well to bring in a second income and have only two or three ...

A.   3 February 2010: i think he is the stupid one in not supporting you if what you want to do and you dont have kids just for tax cuts what you do when you have kids is your choice i would end it with and find somebody who treats you right it seems you have different ... (read in full...)

Why am I so tired all the time?

Q.   So I am constantly tired and I can not figure out why. I mean I get a fairly good amount of sleep(from 10 till 6) Its like it is very hard to last through the day even when I am trying to prepare for my online test, its impossible for me to stay a...

A.   3 February 2010: i dont have this problem but it could be stress that is making you so tired try taking a break when studying ... (read in full...)

Why do I not fancy boys my own age?

Q.   Hey Everyone (: Okay so i have a little problem. I fancy one of the teachers in my school :/ and for some reason i dont like any boys my age :/ which all my friends find weird. i was just wondering if people know why this is?!...

A.   3 February 2010: hi i would not get involved with the teacher in school maybe you just like older guys some girls do or maybe you just have not found a young good guy yet you have plenty of time to do so i prefer older guys myself ... (read in full...)

Is it bad of me to want to do more with him?

Q.   me and my bf have been going out out for two months, but the most we have done is hug once - when he asked me out - and been to the cinema with his friends. Is it bad of me to want to do more with him? it's starting to feel as if we are more like ...

A.   3 February 2010: no of course its not bad for you to do more with him if you like him you are probably becoming more like friends as there is no physical side to the relationship ... (read in full...)

Office teasing/bullying makes me paranoid...

Q.   So I really like were I work. I'm also bisexual, but not openly so. But the work place is non-western and very homophobic. there are obviously gay guys working there but no-one mentions it or brings it up in front of them a bit like an elephant in ...

A.   3 February 2010: hi i think you have to ignore her as she does not know or mean to hurt your feelings... (read in full...)

Who do I choose? My heart tells me John Doe, but my gut tells me my new husband!

Q.   Hello all! I need a little bit of an explanation as to what I should do here. Any real advice is welcomed, please don't sugar coat or honey glaze anything. I need the truth. This entire ordeal started in September of two years ago, when...

A.   3 February 2010: you have to decide whether you want marriage or just fun and decide between the two guys as they may find find out about each other and then you will lose them both... (read in full...)

How can I get off this horrible path I'm on...?

Q.   i started a new school this year, and meet a guy who took advantage of me. and we went months with out talking until we started talking again and became i would say really good friends with everything forgotten. then a time came were he expressed ...

A.   3 February 2010: hi you need to decide which one you want and let the other one go its not fair to string them both along and they might find out about each other and then you will lose both ... (read in full...)

Not wanting a relationship or sex

Q.   I have a problem of sorts. I am normal by all accounts, but sometimes I wish never to be in a relationship and never to marry or father children. Sometimes I see myself down the future when I am old, without a wife or children. Of course I like to ...

A.   3 February 2010: no humans do not have to be in relationships and have sex some people dont want commitment of marriage or kids i guess some people may not also want relationships at all just no strings attached fun... (read in full...)

I know I won't ever be loved like she will love me.

Q.   Hello, im pretty new to the whole "post your problems online" scene, but I've never loved a girl like this in my life and any kind of help/advice would be appreciated. Well it starts out like this. About 2 years ago I met a girl online. We talked a ...

A.   3 February 2010: i dont think there is any more you can do if she does not feel the same anymore you will move on in time and meet a nice girl... (read in full...)

Considering dating an older woman...

Q.   I am a college student and I am really not attracted to any girls I know personally or for that matter my recent and distant past. I have joined an online dating site, and have considered dating an older woman. I have just turned 23. My question...

A.   3 February 2010: yes the relationship will work out if you find the right women some women do like younger guys the same as some girls like older men... (read in full...)

Guy over friend?

Q.   theres a guy that really likes me but he already has a gf he said he will break up with her for me but she is my friend and i dont want to hurt her. should i go out with this guy? ...

A.   3 February 2010: hi you should not get involved with him as you will lose a good friend ... (read in full...)

I hate to ask a cliche love question, but...

Q.   I met this boy about two years ago. We knew each other for about a month before we started going out. Out of everybody I've ever been with, I liked him the most. We went out for a while, before I broke up with him after a 'friend' told me that he ...

A.   3 February 2010: if he got another girlfriend so soon after spliting up with you then he cant have much feelings for you why did you split up with him just cause your friend said something you should not believe everything your told ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to play tit for tat games ignoring each other.?

Q.   Today i ignored my friend/crush because hes been really conceited and wont talk to me by text, email, or AIM. Me and my fiend were on the bus sitting across from one another and he sat behind my friend grace. Me and G played a no talking game and R ...

A.   3 February 2010: i dont think these mind games are good for either of you and he should grow up and you should find a decent guy ... (read in full...)

We have been on and off for a year, ...should I go back to him again?

Q.   im thinking about going back with my ex bf, but he seems different then before...he's jealous. i have a best guy friend, and when ever i say hi to him my ex gets quiet and he asks if do i like my friend, or just makes the face. we have ben on and o...

A.   3 February 2010: yes jealousy is a sign of love and if he was teary eyed then i think he must love you so i think you should go to him again i dont know why he is getting in fights he could be because he is angry with himself and hurt at losing you ... (read in full...)

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