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*llabells
writes:I'm nearly 15 and I really want to give up my virginity but I don't have a boyfriend or know anyone that would want to have sex with me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Dont be with someone that you dont even have cares for. because your virginity is a very special thing to you.. you shouldnt want to just say do me.. and thats it.. your first time is going to hurt.. so why not have passion and love? instead of lust and strangness.. if you want to lose it so badly.. lose it to a friend at least
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Hey,
I don't know you're reasons for wanting to lose your virginity, but I assume it's because a lot of you're friends and peers have experimented with sex.
Think about whether you want to have sex for yourself, or to fit in with the crowd.
If you lost your virginity to a random guy or a bf you don't really love, when you are a few years older and you find a perfect guy for you, or even if you don't find a perfect guy, you will most likely regret your decision.
You are only young! Forget about sex at the moment, it's overrated and not a necessity at 15, wait until you find someone you love and then you will know it's the right time. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Consider carefully the reasons you want to lose your virginity and ask yourself are they the right reasons.
Losing your virginity at your age without a long term boyfriend is not the right way to go in my opinion and I don't think you have good reason yet.
Tell us what your reasons are. If it's because all your friends have, or something along those lines then it's not a good idea.
Whatever you do, don't get the wrong idea that sex somehow makes you a woman. Or that you'll get more respect and boys will like you more if you have sex with them because that's simply not true at all.
Wait for the right guy. Have fun and date, when the right guy comes along that has proven worthy of being your first then consider it but not before.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (4 October 2010):
Wait
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Wait. The last thing you want to do is lose your virginity in a one-stand stand or f*** buddy situation. Have some patience :) I understand that you feel ready and want this, but trust me when I say that it'll be worth the wait if it is a person you love and trust that shares this experience with you. Someone I know thought she'd be ok losing it to a hot guy who made it clear he only wanted sex. He didn't care about making it nice experience and she cried for months because he used her and gave his friends her number. She now has a great guy and she wishes it had been him she gave her virginity to. But, you can't take back your actions. Ever. Sex shouldn't be something you can just give away. You're trusting someone with your body and with all the diseases and cruelty out there, that trust should be earned. When the right guy comes along, you'll be grateful you waited for him. So many women wish they had waited or chosen better or hadn't been stolen from by sexual assault or abuse. You have something precious
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reader, Princess_Rae +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Ellabells,
I wish to advise caution to you, as loosing your virginity is not something to take lightly. I am curious as to why you are in such an immediate rush to have sex, and lose your virgin status, especially given that you haven't even turned 15 yet. Personally it took me until I was 18 to lose mine, and I would not trade the experience for anything in the world. I think your first time should be special and meaningful to you.
That aside, there are ways of insuring your virginity is lost with out a boyfriend, which you have mentioned you lack. I know a friend who did the deed herself while masturbating. Anything long enough to reach that far is enough for you to not longer be a virgin. You should be careful of masturbating with any object especially those not designed as sex aids, because of the sensitivity of that area. You would not want to get anything stuck that a doctor might have to remove later.
Even still, I really suggest, whether you are planning on having sex or not, to talk to a trusted adult about what you are considering. They may be able to provide a different perspective of what you are going through and help you understand your sexuality a bit better.
With Love,
Princess_Rae
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Trust me just wait until you find the right guy he is out there just gold your head high and let time do it's job..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): WAIT.
Firstly, I doubt you are legal... someone older would likely be up for criminal prosecution.
Secondly... why? why? why? What's the reason? Just felt like it? meh!?
Finally, if you are even vaguely considering this... get on the pill immediately.... and get the guy to use a condom. But that's the last choice.
You have plenty of time to have sex... and I promise you that at age 14... you'll be having the worst sex of your life...
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reader, wee_neko  +, writes (4 October 2010):
Wait til you find someone you like enough to date, then wait til you guys are ready for sex - don't pounce on him.
It hurt like a bitch for me so it's not something I'd tell you to be all psyched for now. You might want to wait until your body gets a little more development time in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Being horny isn’t an excuse to give up your virginity to just some guy. I think you should have a little more respect for yourself. Find a boy that wants you for you and not for just sex. Sex will come but that shouldn’t be the reason for you seeking a boyfriend.
But at your age maybe it’s a bit hard to help yourself? I don’t know. Good luck though.
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