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Originally from London, age 20 :)

I can offer advice on long term relationships as well as hard break ups, and can also be a shoulder for girls struggling to understand guys (who should come with instructions!)

Why is my ex civiil to me when she told my friend she doesn't even like me?

Q.   i'm confused why the girl i used to date would make comment like this to my best mate about me. I thought things we're okay, so why she lied seems off to me. You decide... We had a bad break up, I was a douche to her I wont deny that. But she sa...

A.   29 April 2013: She's being an adult about the situation. You live in a small town you say? Why be cruel and make it awkward for mutual friends who like you both? It's more for yours and her friends than about you. And if you were a dick to her then yes she does ... (read in full...)

We will be breaking up after the summer. Is it a good idea to keep dating now?

Q.   Next year my boyfriend and I are going to uni, different unis but not that far apart. I told him that he meant a lot to me and I'd like to try to stay together at uni because I didn't want to lose him, but after a lot of time of him thinking about ...

A.   25 April 2013: Totally agree with 'So Very Confused'. I had a similar situation before I went to uni a couple years back, had been with boyfriend for couple of years and we were going to separate unis. Decided throughout the summer of constantly spending time tog... (read in full...)

B/f gave me his password to facebook but I seen messages I didn't like should I talk to him about them?

Q.   I have been dating this guy for about a month now, and he gave me his facebook password yesterday when i was at his place. I looked at some of his private messages when i was with him at his place, but i looked at some more when i got home too,and ...

A.   21 February 2012: Hey, Your boyfriend hasn't done anything wrong. If you start questioning him about girls before you met him you'll come across needy and jealous. You know he was pleased to be with you from his 'can't believe my luck' message to his mate. Don... (read in full...)

I hate my stepfather he hates me!

Q.   Basically my mum married my step dad when i was about 7 or 8 but when he proposed to her she would ask me if i was ok with it first, and i stupidly said yes because i liked him at the time he was nice to me back then, but then my mum had his son (my ...

A.   19 February 2012: OK, Although it is a completely different situation, I think it might relate. In the summer, I worked at a firm in London, and two of the other guys (who had the same job as me but a permanent position) would make nasty comments and gen... (read in full...)

How can I get my crush's attention without going up to him?

Q.   So im a quiet shy girl yet I'm friendly. I want to get my crush attention without going up to him. We text but I am always the one to start the conversation. I have church tomorrow and want him to want to talk to me in person. What can I do?...

A.   19 February 2012: Hey sweetie, There's nothing to be shy about, and I can't give you advice to make him come up to you and talk to you. Before or after the service just walk up to him, ask him how he is and what his weekend has been like. And let the conversa... (read in full...)

B/f is dating 2 of us at the same time. He says he's just "pretending" to date her!

Q.   I'v been dating a guy almost a month now, recently, he told me that he was dating a different girl and he's doing that to please her he disclosed to me that im the one he loves even though he's pretending to be dating her. Should i believe him? I ...

A.   19 February 2012: Sweetie, Please, please believe me when I say that this guy is not worth your time. He is messing both of you around, and you need to end this before you get any deeper. It is unacceptable, as janniepeg says, and you should not have to tole... (read in full...)

Guy said I was too small for him so now he doesn't call anymore

Q.   I met this guy in facebook...he asked for my number...called me several times...and we had a date...after our first date he stopped calling me....when i asked he told that he felt im too small for him...he is 9yrs older than me....but i love him and ...

A.   19 February 2012: Sorry babe, you are mixing love and lust. If he likes you, he will make it known. If he doesn't, he won't. Unfortunately it is the latter, but don't be disheartened. You have to kiss all the frogs to find the prince. BL x... (read in full...)

I can't take the rest of my life to get over a relationship that only lasted 6 months!

Q.   The guy that I was in love with and I broke up for good nearly a year ago. We had a good relationship for about 6 months, and a really shitty, alcohol-fuelled, rocky, dramatic, on-again-off-again, booty-call relationship for about 6 months after ...

A.   19 February 2012: Hi OP, I completely understand where you are coming from. I split up with my boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago, and I didn't think it had gone wrong at all. Even now I'm pretty sure I'm over him, if I saw him in another relationship with som... (read in full...)

Was losing your virginity as you expected it to be?

Q.   Was losing your Virginity as you expected it to be and would you change your mind if you could go back?...

A.   17 October 2010: I lost it at 16 to my boyfriend of 5 months. It was lovely, i wouldn't change it for the world.... (read in full...)

I need help to know if I'm ready for sex!

Q.   Hey me and my Boyfriend have been together for about 7months and I don't know if we are ready for 'it'. We have been discussing sex for the past few days and I'm scared. I think I am ready but he really wants to do it because he loves me so much and ...

A.   8 October 2010: 1) Start off with foreplay, and I mean a lot of foreplay! It's your first time so make sure he concentrates a lot on you. This means lots of kissing, not just on the lips, fool around the bases a bit, but make sure he mostly focuses on you. 2) E... (read in full...)

1st time sex and bleeding?

Q.   is it normal for girls to bleed there first time havin sex? should i be worried if its ben happenin longer than an hour?...

A.   5 October 2010: Hey, I didn't bleed when I lost my virginity, but it is perfectly normal! Wear a sanitary pad and you should stop bleeding by tomorrow :) xxx... (read in full...)

Will first time sex be so painful that I won't want to do it again?

Q.   hi everyone,im a 15 yr old girl and my boyfriend and i who have been together for 3 yrs (hes 16) want to take our relationship to a more sexual level.not exactly now but sometime in the near future.we're ready now but we're trying to wait till we ...

A.   5 October 2010: Hey, I was terrified before my first time! I knew it would happen that night and had to have a glass of wine to calm my nerves lol. But in all seriousness, everyone says its excruciating and you bleed extensively, and yes it was painful I wo... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity but I don't have a boyfriend! What should I do?

Q.   I'm nearly 15 and I really want to give up my virginity but I don't have a boyfriend or know anyone that would want to have sex with me. What should I do?...

A.   4 October 2010: Hey, I don't know you're reasons for wanting to lose your virginity, but I assume it's because a lot of you're friends and peers have experimented with sex. Think about whether you want to have sex for yourself, or to fit in with the crowd. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to tell my mum about my period!

Q.   Help. This is really weird and I don't know why I'm doing this but anyway. I'm 13 and I just started my period this afternoon. I have already had a "slight leakage" or watever so technically this is my second period. And my mum got me a box of pads ...

A.   4 October 2010: Hey, You're right, your mum is like you, she also once had a first period and told her mum about it! Listen, all women have periods, it's natural, it's part of the life cycle! A period is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of, you should be gr... (read in full...)

Does this text mean anything special?

Q.   Hi guys! A little advise would help! A guy friend of mine sent me a text saying "I'm leaving England... Bye XxX" can any one tell me what that would mean? Especially after the fact that he hasn't told anyone else....

A.   13 August 2010: Unless there is a little thing going on between you, I don't think this means anything, just that he wanted to tell you he was going away. ... (read in full...)

What was your first time like?

Q.   I am a teenage girl. I do not plan on having sex until I find someone I love and they love me back. But I wanted to know , what was your 1st time like? How did it feel? How old were you? What were you thinking? Was it someone you loved? Where was it ...

A.   11 August 2010: I was 16 :) I had been planning it with my boyfriend for a month or so and then one day my parents went out and he came round. I was super nervous as I thought it would happen then. We had some wine to set the mood and calm my nerves! Then it just... (read in full...)

Confused about genital warts, a couple questions

Q.   I've been doing some reading and I can't seem to get a definitive answer. Can genital warts be completely cured or is it like herpes (you can control the symptoms but you'll always have the virus)?? If a guy once had it and always practices...

A.   11 August 2010: Genital warts can never be fully cured. If the warts are inflamed then they are contagious, however if they are not inflamed they are not contagious. Genital warts cannot be cured and therefore is necessary to tell a sexual partner.... (read in full...)

Was I not a virgin because I didnt bleed when I had sex for the first time?

Q.   Hi, i want to ask that when i had sex with my boyfriend first time then i was not bleed. But that was first time i involved in the procedure so i want to know was i not a virgin? Please help me because this thing has completly disturbed my life...

A.   11 August 2010: Hey I didn't bleed my first time either :) Every woman is different. Some bleed heavily, some only bleed lightly, some don't bleed at all (me and you)... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to believe that sex outside of marriage is immoral?

Q.   I am still a virgin at 34 due to mostly my own religious convictions. I believe it is immoral to have sex outside of marriage. I feel like a freak due to this fact. I hope that nobody knows since only the ones closest to me know about it. Am I wrong ...

A.   11 August 2010: No it is absolutely not wrong to believe in no sex before marriage. But if you are having urges and are not happy, it is not wrong at all to start reconsidering!... (read in full...)

Am I a virgin man?

Q.   Once, my colleagues asked me " r u a virgin"? And i did not know how to answer them. I am wondering how '" virgin" is defined? Lets say if i have never had sex with a girl, but i have done masturbation. Then am I a virgin man? ...

A.   8 August 2010: You are a virgin until you have penetrative intercourse with another person... (read in full...)

Why might a virgin not bleed?

Q.   I am a girl of 19yrs,i meet a boy of 29yrs whom i hv being dating for 2years.recently he has being making life unbearable 4 me because there was no spill of blood or pains as he was the first man i ever had sexual intercourse with.so,what causes a ...

A.   7 August 2010: Hey, When I lost my virginity I did not bleed either! Although it was very painful I did not shed one drop of blood. All women are different and most bleed, but there are a few that don't, like you and me.... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him even though he wont wear condoms and I'm not on birth control?

Q.   i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married ...

A.   6 August 2010: If you are truly committed to him and you want to have sex, well you are going to have to insist he wears a condom or you go on birth control. Its simple, if you are not ready for a child then you need to do one or the other 1) condom or 2... (read in full...)

Does sex for the first time hurt for a male?

Q.   dear cupid as i am a male virgin does sex hurt for the first time. and what is like as i would like to know...

A.   6 August 2010: no it does not hurt a boy to lose his virginity. it will only hurt if there is no lubrication... (read in full...)

Will sex hurt the first time?

Q.   ok...ummm me and my boyfriend are going to have sex soon but im a little scared about it cuz i dont want it to hurt,,,,does it hurt????? will i bleed??? i want to know what im getting myself in to before...thanks...

A.   6 August 2010: hey :) i will be very honest, it hurts a lot for about the first minute or two,like a stinging sensation, it feels like you're being ripped (which in essence you are), then that pain eases and i started to feel a discomfort in my stomach if he we... (read in full...)

Date for the first time - what to do

Q.   Hey guys, just a quick question. I'm meeting this guy for the first time tomorrow and I have NO idea what to do. I don't know what to talk about - we've been texting a lot already so I know we do have quite a lot in common already but still - and I ...

A.   3 August 2010: honestly all i can say is be yourself :) ask him questions like what he is studying/where he works/what he does in his spare time the conversation will flow eventually and new topics will emerge about of your or his questions relax! and en... (read in full...)

What are the sure signs that a guy is into you?

Q.   what are the closest to sure signs you can get from a guy that he is interested in you; what kind of: eye contact, touching, talking, attention, etc... are giveaways? xoaintno...

A.   28 July 2010: Well I learnt that if someone likes you it will be pretty obvious - if they don't like you then they wont make an effort - flirting (eye contact etc) - they look at you a lot - when they are talking with someone else their body faces towards you ... (read in full...)

What do I do about the towel/tampons?

Q.   Hey, this is entirely embarrassing for me so please don't laugh or leave a patronizing message. I'm 15 and have recently gotten with my boyfriend, we're fine and comfortable - everything that I expect from him. But even the best trust stops ...

A.   27 July 2010: wrap it up in toilet paper and throw it in the bin in the bathroom - most people have one, if not keep it wrapped up and put it in another bin - if its well wrapped up no one is going to know! also who will stick their hand in the bin and unwrap it?... (read in full...)

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