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writes:Me:I'm 19 years old, I'm in college, I live 1 hour and 50 mins. away from my girlfriend. (I have a car) We've been together for 1 year, 2 months and 14 days. We love each other to death, and I trust her more than I would even trust my mom. (I love and trust my mom) I am a really gentleman-ly guy. (hold doors open for my girl, respect her, I'm honest with her, etc.)My girlfriend:She's 21 years old, she doesn't study but she works. Lives 1 hour and 50 mins. away from me. (She doesn't have a car) She tells me everything that happenes in her every day life, (even if it's something I wouldn't like to hear) she is really honest with me and RESPECTS me more than anyone in the world. She LOVES me more than anyone in the world.Now, to what I want to ask; I want to give her a gift.Yes, a gift.But not something expensive. (I'm in college, as I said, and I don't work.)The problem is, she's not the kind of girl that gets excited by anything. I bought her a pair of cockatiels (birds) and that was something she had wanted for years, she had a pair of them when she was 8 years old but they died prematurely.She was happy, but not excited, (at least not view-ably excited) so I want to know if there's something a girl would, not literally, kill for just to have her boyfriend give her this.I want to tell her that I love her, without actually saying it, without taking my clothes off and without having to sell my butt for a year in order to afford it.P.S.: Flowers won't do the job, I think.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I would not worry much about that.
While it is surely nice to share some passions and interests, compatibility is more about emotions than about liking the same movies or music or sports etc.
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reader, VocalsAndRhythmGuitarist +, writes (4 October 2010):
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Composing a song would be good, but... I'm not sure she'd be jumping for joy with that. See, I've played her favorite songs for her (and sung them too) and she liked it, but it really didn't do anything to let her see how much I love her. It just showed her I'm a really good guitarist and I can sing while playing.
Writing a love poem for her would definitely do nothing since she hates fancy writing... LoL
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"You could buy an unexpensive piece of jewelry ,like a silver bracelet or a small gold ID tag, and have it engraved with a verse from her favourite poem, or a verse from a song that means something to her. Or with her special nickname , if you have one for her, and the date of your first kiss, something like that."
That's a really good idea, since she's the kind of girl that'll remember you because you gave her something that she can carry anywhere, and is gonna be able to "carry" you anywhere she goes.
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I've been meaning to ask, maybe if I can't find anything that'll make her jump of excitement, then maybe it's because our interests are not the same, and then that would mean that we may have problems in the future because of disagreements. Is that right?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (4 October 2010):
It's very difficult to give you an advice without knowing what your gf is into. Every girl is different, - if anybody would give me a couple of birds , I would be very disappointed, since I hate birds with a vengeance, LOL.
I don't think there is any single object that can sweep off her feet every girl, I guess it depends from what she likes- books,or sports or fashion etc.etc.
Anyway the best gift is the one that shows you have put thought into it. You could buy an unexpensive piece of jewelry ,like a silver bracelet or a small gold ID tag, and have it engraved with a verse from her favourite poem, or a verse from a song that means something to her. Or with her special nickname , if you have one for her, and the date of your first kiss, something like that.
Also, remember that maybe this is just her personality, maybe she is not a very excitable person in her life, if she does not jump up and down squealing with glee, this does not mean she did not love and appreciate your gifts.
P:S: I am also gonna suggest something that would melt the heart of many many girls : an adorable little kitten ( hopefully it will get rid of those frigging cockatiels, lol ! )
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 In my opinion, the best gifts involve time and thought. Not things you buy but things you do or make. Your nickname suggests that you're musically inclined, why not write and record a song for her? I don't know any girl who hasn't sighed dreamily at a beautiful love song and hasn't wished that she inspired it :) Wish I had inspired Unchained Melody personally :p I had a man who learned how to whittle and do light carpentry just because I told him I wanted a music box. He made me one with his bare hands. For months I wondered how he was getting such huge callouses! When he gave it me, I swear I swooned! I'd (almost) kill for a man to write me a heartful, love poem. I'm a writer so that would mean the most to me. I'm not impressed by what's bought. Sure, I can appreciate them but after some time, it's not so important. I think what you're trying to do is incredibly sweet. Hope this helped...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Maybe she's not the easily impressible type. Some women aren't.
Spent 10 years trying to get that 'swept of her feet' effect on my wife and never ever got it. Gave up in the end (left the marriage for other reasons).
Making something might be good? Writing a heartfelt letter? Something from the heart.
Or plan a day out... something very special... to special place... experiences can often be more important than things.
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