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I like this guy in my year but his racist friend is making things difficult!

Q.   i really like this guy im my year. im 14 and the girl that is his best friend dosent like me cause i got angry at her for saying a few racist jokes about me behind my back (im 1/4 asian) and i really like him but i never get to talk to him or hang ...

A.   8 June 2012: It sounds like his friend likes him. Unless he can stand up and stop to talk to you then he truly won't get to know you. There really isn't anything you can do at this point. ... (read in full...)

Should I go back to him?

Q.   So i was with this guy for two years and then he decided to join the air force and the closer it got to hi leaving for basic the more he pushed me away and we fought finally we broke up. A week and a half later he's dating this other girl and three ...

A.   21 May 2012: I agree with Aunt Honesty. Your boyfriend found someone else and then he came back and started texting you. I can see why the exfiance got so jealous. My boyfriend did something a little similar but he met the woman in basic and they started up a ... (read in full...)

My friend wants to leave his controlling wife but now she is pregnant

Q.   My best friend marriage is a disaster, he always loved another women but still married his current wife. She know about his feelings and was sure that he will get over it. But last year it was very hard so he was going to break up with her and get ...

A.   8 May 2012: I feel really bad for his current wife, I can see why she is so controlling. He will be leaving her for another woman, she always has that hanging over her head. It was wrong for her to stop protection, but when he realized he wasn't going to love ... (read in full...)

How do I get my boyfriend to love me again?

Q.   My boyfriend and i are together 3 years he is 44 and i am 42. Basically he became good friends with a woman for about a 2 years ago. he helped her settle into our country they were friends and now he is telling me he is in love with her and he c...

A.   19 April 2012: He had an emotional affair for months with this woman and he is now to the point where he wants to make it physical. It's time to dump him and move on. It's not the issue about having children it's just an excuse he can throw your way to deflect ... (read in full...)

My husband made me blow off an old friend

Q.   So I have been in a fight with my husband for the last few days, over me talking to a guy friend on the phone. Please keep in mind that this story is going to be onesided, my side, and that (1) I have never physically met the guy (he lives east ...

A.   10 March 2012: I totally agree with Code Warrior, but it sounds like you two do not have any boundaries set up. He went to his female friend, you two need to sit down and discuss what some healthy opposite sex friend boundaries are. My bf and I had to go through ... (read in full...)

My b/f of almost a year has not come to see me after a medical procedure. Should I be upset?

Q.   I'm really upset that my boyfriend of 11 months did not come to see me after I had an out-patient medical procedure. He lives 1-1/2 hours away and knew about this procedure well in advance. My parents came into town to take me the day of ...

A.   7 March 2012: Discuss it with him. It's huge!... (read in full...)

My husband of 8 years seems more like a friend than anything else

Q.   I love my husband but more often we seem like friends than anything else. No sentiments communicated on how much he loves me etc - does this just fade over the 8 years that its not necessary to tell it anymore? We seem to have grown apart and have ...

A.   7 March 2012: You need to talk to him and come up with a compromise. Maybe you do an activity he likes, he does one you like and then something you two did while dating. The rest of the time can be separate. Get the spark back. ... (read in full...)

Should I take the risk and go to meet this man about a job? Parents told me not to go because it sounds dodgy

Q.   A man called me about a cleaning job last week, but i missed the call, and when i called back, he said he had given the job to another lady, but he said he would call me if it didn't work out with her. I got a phone call from him again today, saying ...

A.   7 March 2012: Sounds really dodgy. If you go bring some muscle with you. ... (read in full...)

Has my girlfriend deceived me or does the sex with her ex-boyfriend not count?

Q.   I am not sure where to start but I do want to document how I feel and explain what has been happening in my relationship. Without going in to too much background detail I want to start with the facts. At the end of March this year my partner walked ...

A.   31 December 2011: You are depressed because she is playing with your emotions. You need to stop seeing her and take a long contract somewhere else and then date someone else. You two are done, all she wants you for is money. ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my friend and my bf

Q.   I don't know I'm being crazy or if I should be upset/worried. This is basically about my boyfriend and my friend, who is a girl. From the beginning, I've been very insecure about them, I admit. When I first introduced them, they got along r...

A.   16 November 2011: I think you should take the pictures with her and give your bf different picture of just you to put in his wallet. Then start to limit your involvement with her. ... (read in full...)

B/f wants to move in together but I don't like the closeness he has with his female friend and I can't commit like this

Q.   I have written here before and I have recieved great answers, now I have a new question. My boyfriend of two years and I have had a few problems when in our relationship. In the beginning of our realtionship I found out that my mother had cancer a...

A.   16 October 2011: Thank you so much for your answers Him checking his text was a huge straw with me. Also, a week before that he was over and we were watching a movie he was very distant, and texting the whole time. When he apologized after about being distant ... (read in full...)

He wasn't like this at the start. He rebuffs me sexually. Should I act cool in the morning even though his refusal upsets me?

Q.   my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now, and i seriously believe whole heartedly that we are meant to be together we are two of a kind, and we have fallen for each other so quickly. He treats me absolutely amazingly and always puts me ...

A.   15 October 2011: You need to talk to him about it, it's hard I have been in your same position. ... (read in full...)

Shd he set firmer boundaries when his friends pester him ? Are his friends jealous of his time with me?

Q.   Okay, this question may sound a bit silly, but do I have a point please tell me ... Okay so I went on a family holiday monday til friday and my boyfriend came too. On the friday it didnt even reach the afternoon and he had a call from his flat ma...

A.   15 October 2011: Your anger should be directed at him not his friends. He told them that he might go out with them. Maybe he felt that all day with you and then he would see his friends. Don't get too clingy bc it will just blow up in your face. ... (read in full...)

If I was so repulsive then how can he not think that now?

Q.   My spouse is 1/2 my age and had an affair with a woman closer to his age (actually his step daughter, my own child). I am 40 and durring his affair he told her, and his best friend and a few other people that touching me was disgusting. He ...

A.   7 October 2011: I am sorry but if he is still around it has to be money. Get a lawyer, get people to testify about the affair and get proof. ... (read in full...)

Why did my boss do that? Is it a sign of love?

Q.   hi,im an accountant in a private company.my boss was four grades senior than me and he looked very appealing and warm all the time...its been 6 months I got my job there. yesterday my boss sent me a message asking me to come to his cabin..it wa...

A.   24 August 2011: He took photos of you tO show others. You need to go t your HR department and file against him. You need to get legal help. ... (read in full...)

My wife is having an emotional affair and I can't stop her

Q.   Hi guys. I am hoping somebody can help me. I am at the end of my rope. My wife has been having an emotional affair with a married man whose children go to the same school as ours. It has been going on for a year and she is very deeply involved....

A.   17 August 2011: Definitely get as much proof as possible or if she is ejected from the house she will play the victim. She is no longer in the marriage. She has no respect for you, you need to start moving on with your life. ... (read in full...)

Why does he want a trial marriage if we have already been G/f and B/f for two years already?

Q.   I was out to dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I asked him what his reservations are about getting married. He told me that he wanted to live together first because he wanted a trial run to see if we were compatible. I feel after two years he s...

A.   14 August 2011: Thank you all for your responses. My family is pretty old fashion, so I know he couldn't move in even paying rent, which he knows. Also, he has told me that he wants to marry me for a year now so when he gave me a promise ring and took me ring ... (read in full...)

Should he protect us financially?

Q.   Hi Advice needed My Partner and I had a rocky relationship in the past. At the start he was far from committed to me I had his baby but there were episodes of suspected cheating and he was dismissive of my children I lost my job and he refused t...

A.   11 August 2011: I think you need to sue to get him to pay child support, allow him to see your son but do not go back into a relationship with him. He doesn't care about your future. My Mother got really sick and my father let his financial side drop so we could ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to be jealous or does my boyfriend like this girl?

Q.   We work together. We've been together for 4 months. The girl has worked there for 3 months... she started a month after he and I began talking and dating... Two days after she started, she had his number. Bc she and I were walking to the hap...

A.   3 August 2011: I would just tell the girl you are dating him and if he gets upset you know your answer. ... (read in full...)

Starting a much needed job soon, she wants to move to Florida, what is best??

Q.   Hey everyone just needed a little bit of advice. I am in a dillema here. I have been with my girlfriend now going on 4 years and we have a 2 year old daughter together. We have been "Ok". We had our ups and downs. My life is kinda in shambles. I ...

A.   10 July 2011: I agree you need to grow up and give your daughter and gf a stable environment. I also have a big BUT do not move, you are just starting a job and you are extremely lucky your parents let you rent their condo. To get another place and pay rent each ... (read in full...)

Ten years together. But he cheated for 2 years. Is this guy worth fighting for?

Q.   I dated a guy for 10 years and in the last 2 years he was seeing another women behind my back, to which he got caught. He lied about seeing her and still does. He has not contacted me since the split, which is a month. Is he worth fighting for?...

A.   7 July 2011: Leave him and move on... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting? Or should our anniversary mean more?

Q.   It's our 2 year anniversary today and I must say, im disappointed with my bfs efforts. He knows I'm the romantic type and our first anniversary was so romantic, he took me to dinner, brought me two bracelets (one engraved) and we got matching ...

A.   7 July 2011: I think his gift was absolutely romantic and wonderful. He wanted to spend an activity with you and show you that he really loves you. Personally I think his gift was the best and I would take his over yours any day. It's not the money its the ... (read in full...)

A threesome that went bad. Is b/f blaming me?

Q.   My boyfriend has been asking to have been wanting to have a 3some for the last 7 months. One with a girl and one with a boy. He have been talking about this female who would like to. But she was concern if I was sexually attracted to her. So we ...

A.   27 June 2011: I agree with youwish, I think the other girl was more attracted to your bf and thought this 3some would be more of a twosome with him and her. ... (read in full...)

Help me get her back please!

Q.   I need help. :( I have just gotten back home from the U.S Army, i was deployed for a year. and going back sometime later this year. But thats not what i came to talk about.. My wife.. lets call her Nicki is an amazing woman, and i lov...

A.   7 May 2011: I guess I'm the only person here wondering why sara would tell... 1. Because she likes your wife and felt she had to tell her. 2. Felt so guilty that she needed to get it off her chest. 3. She wants you and wanted to break up your marriage. ... (read in full...)

Did he cheat on his g/f with me?

Q.   hi, im here for some advice on a friend. we are17 and juniors in high school. he has a gf. but we've become really close. we flirt a lottt. so i added him on fb the other day, and he immediately mssgd me. he asked to hang out and gave me his number ...

A.   1 May 2011: Yes he is a cheater. How would you feel if the man you love and trust is flirting and biting other women's necks. I would be so upset he wants to hook up with another woman. ... (read in full...)

Should I let this guy know that his fiance sleeps around?

Q.   There is a girl who works in my office who is getting married in less than 6 weeks time. However, she continues to sleep with other men. Friends of friends and men she works with. She does this when her fiance is working(a policeman so does his ...

A.   1 May 2011: I would do it and I hope someone would tell me if my fiancé was sleeping around. I would do it with some proof and also so no one could figure out who it is. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lied about sleeping with a close friend while we were seeing each other.

Q.   My boyfriend recently confessed that he slept with a close female friend of his. It's a little bit complicated because this girl, C, was a long time girlfriend of one of the other guys in their group of friends and she and him would often spend time ...

A.   27 April 2011: If you stay with him, then he has to cut all contact with her totally. No texting, emailing, hanging out. If she must be around it's never one on one. If he can't do this then it's time to say goodbye. ... (read in full...)

I don't know how my BF can give up a girlfriend of 10 months for a girl whom he's been talking to for a week??

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. I live with him and his family as my mum now lives in Canada (we're both moving there in October) and I don't talk to any of my family. Basically he's been talking to this girl for th...

A.   16 April 2011: Sorry but you have to leave him. He isn't right for you, don't change yourself for him it will only make you more depressed and him less attracted to you.... (read in full...)

At the end of the day I'm not sure where we are anymore!

Q.   I met my now second Husband in May 2008 we had a lot in common he was charming and made me laugh. we both had children of the same age 3 and 5 and he was in the process of splitting with his ex. After six weeks the relationship was going strong h...

A.   25 March 2011: Get rid of him!!! There is no more warnings. He made you lose your home and job, he is a horrible person. ... (read in full...)

Betrayed by my own sister!

Q.   It all started when i was in 7 grade i had this big crush on this guy name Adam. we would flirt all the time! oh how he gave me the butterflies! we had very little classes in school together and we never saw each other out of school! but it was ok ...

A.   24 March 2011: Tell Adam the truth, that you have never stopped loving him. Break all contact with your sister no matter if you both lose Adam let him live his life. Good luck!... (read in full...)

She says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, so why is she flirting with other guys?

Q.   need help guys, The thing is i have a girlfrd and we've been together like almost 4 years and we've been doing good and i can say she was 100% honest with me and everything. We start it in college now we both have a job. But first there was this guy ...

A.   24 March 2011: To me when you are in a relationship, you can have your own hang out time with your friends. BUT you don't have a seperate personal life, you still have your spouse with you some of the time. She is not serious and is totally disrespecting your ... (read in full...)

Should I feel guilty for sleeping with a guy who has a gf?

Q.   Should I feel guilty? Ok, I met this guy last summer. For some reasons I cant afford a relationship right now. So he and I were being casual. We just hang out sometimes and share bed time to time. Actually I thought he's kinda player becaus...

A.   15 March 2011: Do you know how hard it is to trust a guy you are dating that has a bunch of female friends in the first place? Then to find out one or multiple of the female friends are sleeping with him, that woman is going to have such a hard time trusting any ... (read in full...)

I feel they are divorced so they should act like it.

Q.   I have been dating a man for well over a year, we are both divorced with kids. He still hangs out with his ex to do "family time", they go to dinner, movies all day outings and even sometimes they stay at each others houses. The other day he told me ...

A.   24 February 2011: Ask to go with them, if he is seriously seeing you as his next wife than he should want to include you with his family outings. What happens if you get married? Will he continue to have family trips and not have his new wife come along. He is doing ... (read in full...)

Super bad periods HELP!!!

Q.   Hey girls, so I have no idea what is wrong with my periods! They use to be super slow, like I went swimming for 6 hours and only change it once. I also NEVER had cramps. Now, I have horrible cramps and I'm starting to get sick like throwing up. Also ...

A.   18 February 2011: Definitely see your doctor. I had this happen and I found out I have endometriosis. ... (read in full...)

Do I tell my dad I know that he is cheating on my mom?

Q.   Hi guys!! I came across this site when i googled for help, been browsing through and the answers here all seem really helpful, so here goes: Approximately 6 months ago, I found out that my dad was cheating on my mum, togther with his ex-secretary...

A.   6 February 2011: I'm sorry for what you are going through. What I suggest is to get enough evidence that you can use in case of a divorce. Your father will point out your mother's drinking and depression. He will deny an affair. Tread carefully but get hard proof ... (read in full...)

I only talk to her for friendship, but I cant help but feel this could be something more! Should I tell my girlfriend about her?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for two years, and I have always loved her, I have since the day we got together and I do to this day. However, I have recently been talking to another girl, purely for friendship, but I really can't help but f...

A.   17 January 2011: You need to drop the friend and go out, do things with your gf to build your shared interests. It's either your friend or your gf at this point. There is no both. ... (read in full...)

Her attempt at making me jealous us rather annoying!

Q.   This is just plain and simple question, I have an ex and well me and her have remained friends since our break up over a year a go, it was not really mutual it was hard on her and hard on me. At first we still loved each other but slowly grew apart. ...

A.   6 December 2010: The best way to get out of this is to just end contact with her. Once you do get a gf the gf will be uncomfortable with all of her trying to make you jealous. ... (read in full...)

Why would you say this too a taken man? I feel sick

Q.   I found a text on my bfs phone [I realise I shouldn't have been looking] and it was from a girl that said "I am imaging us in the shower together". I feel sick. It didn't happen, she was just flirting. But all the same. Why would you say that to a ...

A.   1 October 2010: She is definitely not just casually flirting, she is full on hinting. Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? What has he said to this woman also? He might be flirting back if she feels comfortable enough to send this text. ... (read in full...)

He has a g/f but flirts with me alot

Q.   Dear cupid, I like this guy, and have for a long time. He has a girlfriend, but he flirts with me a lot. He's three years older, and I don't know what to do. Help me?...

A.   9 May 2010: Leave it alone you don't want to be the other woman. You guys may get together, but it sounds like it will become a pattern with him and eventually flirt with another woman when you may be dating him. ... (read in full...)

I want to give him my virginity but there's a problem..he already has a gf!

Q.   im 19 and i found a guy that i want to lose my virginity to. We have been together for a month and i feel 110% ready. The problem is that he has a girlfriend on the side....

A.   4 May 2010: What exactly do you mean on the side? Are you two just really good friends and can talk about everything?... (read in full...)

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