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writes:So my best friend's boyfriend is away at uni. They have been together for 2 months now. Me and her boyf are quite good friends.. we text and chat online most days. He has always been quite flirty with me, but i never really thought anything of it.When he came home for christmas last month, we spent quite alot of time together. We went on alot of nights out clubbing together without my best friend.. but with other friends. It was during a night, i walked home with him and he told me that he thinks about me alot etc. and in a sexual way. Last week, I went to visit another friend at uni, one that is quite close to his...so we went to go visit him.We went out and got a little bit drunk. Me and my other friend ended up sleeping in his bed with him. In the early hours, at like 7ish he moved places with my friend and laid next to me and he spooned me and touched me. I'm just as bad as him because i encourage him by flirting back when he does with me....And he's told me he has doubts about his realtionship and he don't think it will last. I don't know what to do in this situation....
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 With friends like you, she won't need enemies!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 You know it, instead- you stay away from your best friend 's boyfriend ,stop flirting with him and keep a healthy distance.
So he tells you he thinks of you a lot, in a sexual way... and first thing you do , you go visit him, you get conveniently a bit drunk and you dive to sleep into his bed.
What a delighftul best friend.
You might as well show your best friend some loyalty, because the line this guy is giving you ( "I am having problems in my relationship ) is one of the oldest of the book and , in this context, does not mean anything, other than his intention to score.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Walkindude said it all... he's trying to get into your pants... it really is that simple.
If he wanted you and only you then he'd break up with his girlfriend and THEN be with you. Seriously, if you want to get used and lose your best friend then by all means, naively believe everything he says and you'll be well on your way.
Please step back for a second and realize that this is your best friend you're betraying here... You really think this guys worth losing her for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): My "best" friend slept over my boyfriend's house and was in your shoes. She never told me she was alone with him, and pretty soon he cheated on me. Don't be a crappy friend. Get your own guy. FYI I hate my ex "best' friend's guts. Have some respect for yourself and your friend. You're just as bad as he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): So, let me get this straight.Your "best" friends boyfriend actively flirts with you and has told you he thinks about you in a sexual way, you, instead of telling him you're not interested because he's with your "best" friend, meet up with him again, get drunk and sleep in his bed.He told you he has doubts about his relationship and you actually believe that? Oh, boy.Look, he is trying to get in your pants, that's all. If you had any respect for your friend or cared about her you would not have done such a horrible thing to her.If she finds out, you might not be forgiven. Best friends are worth more than some guy.
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