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writes:i met a guy 2 months ago on a dating site. we agreed we were only going to be friends with benefits. but now i am in love with him but he says he will never love me. we have seen each other 16 times now and thats alot. i give him blow jobs and we have sex. i have called him honey and baby. he said im not your honey or your baby you arent my girlfriend and im not your boyfriend.if you say that again we are done.i have been texting him on the phone and today i said morning how are you he said stop it right now. i dont know if he will call again but the other night i got everything ready and didnt talk to him then when i got ready to leave he said if it is going to be like that i dont know. then he asked me what was wrong i said nothing he goes i give up. he calls me on the phone and makes conversation and its ok but now i cant text him. he said he doesnt really need me he could jack off if he needed to i was just going to give up on him and leave him alone just to see how much he cares. but in reality it hurts just as much as if he was my boyfriend for real. when we are together he makes me feel good about myself and just seeing his name on my phone is really special. i do not know what to do.i am in love with him.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 Why does your story make me want to ask you if he leaves you money on the dresser when your night is over with? Because that's how he's treating you, like a high paid hooker. You have got to stop wasting time with this man. He's an empty shell. He seems to have no soul and certainly no heart. I don't know what you're relationship is really like but clearly he's not investing any kind of emotional bond. You are nothing but a convenient piece of a**. Give up honey and move on before he drains your spirit completely dry.
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reader, Peonysheart +, writes (11 September 2012):
 Lets just say end it now.
There was a couple red flags there.
I will never love you. Who would say such a thing.
Not allowing you to call him honey ect. Hes not your boyfrirnd your not his girlfriend.
Not allowed to text him anymore ect.
I think it's obvious Hes not interested in you other than booty call.
Sounds kinda like hes got a girlfriend/wife allready.
I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2012): I agree with the other responses, you need to think more of yourself. Don't throw your love after some man you met on-line. Learn to love & respect yourself, only then can you find love. In the meantime, don't contact him, nothing good will come of it. You will end up hurting more than you already do. He made it clear he isn't interested in a real relationship.
No contact is the best way to get over someone. Don't let yourself be used anymore. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2012): The writings all over the wall and the ceiling. HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU! I hate 2 say it this way but ur his "dumping ground" if you know what I mean. He's already told u from the beginning what the deal was and u went ahead and slept w/him anyway. So u have 2 own some of the responsibility 2. Im well aware that u can't control who u fall in love with, but u r an adult and u alone have control over what u do. Im sorry u r hurt but the TWO of agreed 2 friendship only. I have the feeling u r really looking for a committed relationship and was hoping he would change if he saw how wonderful you were. That's almost never happens. Please get out of this now b/4 ur caused even more pain than u already experienced. Best of luck 2 u.
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (10 September 2012):
 Kindly face the truth here and ask yourself, "WHY AM I DOING THIS TO MYSELF?" If you will reread your lines you are in denial and don't want to face the truth.Why would you like to be with him when he has told you he will not love you? Why would you continue communicating with him when he has no respect for you? You cannot manipulate him by giving him his sexual desires, it is not what it is.Please love yourself, you are more worthy than him. You will find the right man in time but you need to fix yourself and build back your self-esteem. Dignity is important, don't throw it away nor let anybody take it away from you.I suggest you read self-development books to keep you mentally and emotionally healthy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 September 2012):
 stop seeing him NOW
block his calls
block his email
delete all his info from everything.
HE is not EVER going to love you back dear one...
he is using you because you let him.
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