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writes: Modnote: your account name is new but I have read an almost identical question to this before. Have you posted this question before or read this before?Hello Everybody!I am going to try and be as honest and as front with everybody as I can.I come from a very humble background. I don't have much. I have a job. I rent a place. I don't have a car. I'm a good looking guy and I would say quite intelligent.About 8 months ago I met this lady who is the polar opposite. She's absolutley stunning. Has been very succeful in life, and is very well off. Why she wanted to have anything to do with me I have no idea? Anyway, we started to see each other and a relationship formed. The first 4 months was amazing and I really fell for her. But 'my paranoia' started to get in the way about 4 months into the relationship. I started to doubt her. Us. Not trust her. I couldn't understand what she wanted to be with a guy that had nothing. Then about 2 months ago I accused her of having an affair! She ended the relationship. I was down right quite horrible to her.Then about 3 weeks ago she got in touch and we got talking. She asked if we could meet and I agreed. Then on the day I was meant to meet her I told her I couldn't. She seemed really upset. She kept texting and phoning me. I tried to ignore them. I know this sounds strange me ignoring her but I couldn't see what the point was in meeting and what would come of this? Then on Friday we agreed to meet. We went for coffee and she said she wanted to spend the day with me. Then we went for something to eat. We had a really nice day. Then when we were saying our 'goodbyes' she asked for a cuddle. She kissed me and I kissed her back. I told her this was wrong. And she said the same thing. She then asked if she could drop me off back at mine. I got in the car and instead of her dropping me off at mine we went back to hers. Again we both told each other this was wrong. But we made love several times. She told me she still loved me and if I'm being honest I still love her. In the late morning / early afternoon when I was leaving she got really upset and was crying and told me she didn't want me to leave. I was totally taken aback by this. I told her I had to go and she was really in bits. I didn't want to see her like that. We tried to figure out a way we could be together but we agreed to still be friends. She's told me she doesn't want to be with anyone else and I've told her the same. Anyway it's my birthday on Monday and she's already told me she bought me all this stuff. Cards. Birthday Cake. Presents. She's told me that she's paid for us to go away to a nice hotel for a couple of days. But I thought we agreed to be friends. What does she want? Does she want us to get back together or does she just want to be friends and she's just having her cake and eating it? Excuse the phrase! I'm really confused but I don't know what to do? I want to be with her but I don't know if she wants the same thing and I don't want to make a fool of myself if she does just want to be friends? Please help?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (21 October 2012):
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You either ask her out officially and make her your woman again or walk away and tell her you can't be friends.
She is into you and you just can't handle her as a partner.You accused her of cheating and she came back,you were lucky,don't use her to feed your ego.
Do not play with her,take presents or anything else unless you can offer her a proper relationship instead of FWB.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Excuse me but she is screaming out for a relationship with you, but she is dropping hints to test that you are serious about her (probably because you falsely accused her of cheating). You are giving mixed messages, arranging meetings and not turning up, trying to push her back to the 'friends zone' and then having full blown sex with her!!!
I think you are seriously lucky to have been given a second chance but in all honestly you seem like you just want to play the field, use her for sex when she presents herself.
Another guy would either ask her out properly and try to make things work or be straight with her (seeing as she seems a little desperate), tell her it's not going to happen and leave her alone. You are taking what you can, keeping her dangling and giving mixed signals because if you are really honest...you are full of inferiority and don't know what you want.
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