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I think she's a thief but what to do?

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Question - (28 December 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Any advice will be appreciated please.

Two weeks ago my colleague came round my house to pick me up for a course we both had to attend. She wasn't due to pick me up until 8am, however was at mine 30 minutes earlier (she said she arrived early as she wasn't sure where I lived and didn't want to be late) and I was still getting ready.

I sat her down in the living room with a drink and left her watching tv.

I went back upstairs to finish getting ready and then we left.

When I got home that evening my neighbour came round with an order I placed with her, so I went to get the money to pay her from my pot that I keep in the living room, under a shelf and noticed that a £10 note was missing.... Now I definitely know there was a £10 note there as the evening before I'd been to the shops and got change from a £20 note and purposely put the change where I did, to give to my neighbour.

I didn't think anymore of this and assumed I misplaced it.

Last week at work we had a charity day for Christmas whereby everyone dressed casually, made cakes etc... and all the money raised was collected in a pot to give to charity.

Our team manager did a count at 1pm of all the money collected so far which was approx £53. In our office we have shift workers that start after 1pm so my colleague (who came to pick me up for the course) offered to go round and collect donations from those on the afternoon shift.

At 6pm when my manager did the 2nd count of the pot she only counted £47 (when 5 hours previous there was £53 in it). She went round to the afternoon shift workers to check if they had donated which they all agreed they had done, to my colleague who offered to do the collection.

Obviously this didn't add up - there should have been significantly more money in there, not less.

I have an awful feeling my colleague had something to do with the missing money and with my £10 note but can't prove anything. I live alone so no one could have taken it and it was in the living room, where I left her waiting for me....

My colleague has been with the company 7 months and is s really nice person and had these 2 instances not occurred I wouldn't suspect anything.

Is it worth me mentioning this to my manager or not?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2015):

Keep it to yourself for now. Don't let her near your things. Avoid her but be polite. Somebody else might well catch her red handed. Best it happens at work where there are proper procedures in place to deal with it. If you see her doing something with your own eyes then absolutely report it. Otherwise you have little to go on at the moment.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada +, writes (28 December 2015):

Ciar agony auntI agree with Honeypie as well.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2015):

I would not also risk tarnishing her reputation however i would not let this slip unnoticed.

Invite her around again then disappear, Put another note in the pot at home (mark it), ' If she was guilty of the theft she will know where the pot is and what it contains' rig a camera up, this is a must for real evidence.

She may be totally innocent and you will feel terrible, but i doubt it.

Regards work, something went wrong somewhere and what a coincidence she just happens to be in the vicinity.

Be careful you don't accuse her or slander her, you must get concrete evidence and mark the notes for extra proof.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 December 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntCannot improve on what Honeypie has said.

do not say anything to anyone but do not trust her in your home or around your things ever again.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 December 2015):

Honeypie agony auntPersonally, I wouldn't. Someone's reputation is at stake and there is no real proof.

Whomever counted that money ought to be the one going to the manager with the info about the charity pot.

I would however.... not invite that person to my home ever again.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2015):

I understand you. And I will suspect also. I will keep my distance from now from that coworker. And is up to you if you want to mention that to your manager but If I am you I will because is sad to say but sometimes at our work places we meet people that look like they are nice and polite and friendly and all that but at the end they are none of that and we still have to work with then. So go ahead and talk to your supervisor and keep this civil at work with that girl. Good luck.

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