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writes:i have a problem and I need help. My wife has a weakness for entertaining men. We have been together for two years and we keep on fighting. Lately I've heard that she slept with her boss and when I asked her she denied it. I love her very much. I chased her because of that. What do I do? Advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 When you say she entertains men, I don't know if you mean she tends to flirt with them (entertaining their attention), or if she actually invites them over, goes out for drinks with them, has lunch etc. Perhaps her job requires that she entertains clients, some of which are men. Your post is not specific so it's hard to answer. You also don't mention who told you that she has slept with her boss and if this person could just be maliciously spreading crap about her. Have their been opportunites? Do they sometimes travel together? I agree with eyeswideopen, you need to talk to her in a non-threatening way and then see if the behavior changes. If her entertaining is connected to work, then it's unlikely that you're going to see a change there unless she changes jobs/careers. Could you possibly be imagining some of this? It's easy to start feeling insecure and worrying about the "what ifs" when your mate is out-going and has to inneract with other men. Rather than accusing, try to get the facts.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 A weakness for entertaining men? You think she slept with her boss? Doesn't she know she is married? You need to sit her down and have a nice long chat about this. If she doesn't change her behavior then you either have accept her wanton ways or show her the door. You don't appear to have a very solid marriage, maybe it isn't worth saving. You may be happier finding someone who understands what marriage truly means.
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reader, Unique1 +, writes (8 August 2007):
Hey,
Why do you keep fighting? Is it most of the time or just recently? If it is a lot- i can bet you that sooner than later your marriage will go down. No relationship with much figting ever worked.
As far as her cheating with her boss, how sure can you be? Do you have any evidence to back it up? You would hate to be accused of cheating if you didn't do that so don't do it to her unless your SURE and have some very good source/evidence. If you dont have that, than even when its hard, try not to stress yourself and ruin your marriage.
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