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writes:hi stright to the point am i his rebound???well ive been with my man for a year and a few months and well, he went thru a bad break up with his gf of like 9 months and she treated him real bad, i knew her. me and him where friends but i knew her as she slept with my ex at the time. my bf while with him and me and my bf split and then a few months later they did too and the same day he ended everything with her. he hooked up with another gurl for 2 weeks but in that time i fell for him, and we end up getting together. and last night i asked him about her, just a question like i cant believe he even liked a gurl like that, as i knew her longer than he did. and he stuck up for her saying he knew her better than i did, that she had some issues and even thow she put him thru hell, he hopes shes on the pill as shes in a bad relationship and he doesnt think she should have his kid, and hows she finds happiness and also made me mad saying if she didnt have so many problems that he couldnt deal with it, than he would still be with her. then i started to cry, that was a slap in my face, hurt bad, but said he would rather have me and that he fund me his better half. that i was more grown up than her and shes 2 years older than me, im 25 hes 29 but i feel as he may still have feelings for her. and i just want out now. how do i leave him and let him know why i think he still has feelings for hes ex and also i feel as he only said something about me because i started to cry.hes been asking his guy friend if shes doing ok and everything about her and his friend gave her his number. he told me my bf told him to do it and at like 1 am he went to his car to talk to a blocked call. he doesnt want sex at all really, he told me that it isnt the same anymore but this is after he started talking to her again and before that we had sex at least once a day if not more !!!!he has me check his voice mail some times and so i did and i heard a gurl on his voice mail masterbating. im not sure if its her or not but i asked him, he got upset and mad at me. said its probley the wrong number, but i dont think so i think he maybe cheating with her so in that saying i want outplease help me please what do you think about all this ?how can i go and leave and not turn back ?what can i say that shows im serious he really doesnt believe me when i say things are over ?????
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (31 August 2007):
 The fact is most people don't just stop loving someone. Love never dies, it just is hidden deep in your heart. Make sure ending it is the best option. If he doesn't take you seriously about breaking up, than be harsh. Not at him, but take harsh steps. Example, give him all his stuff back. Or if you live with him, get all your stuff out of his place. Stop talking to him, avoid him. He'll realize you were serious.It's common that men will become less sexually interested in you, when there's others to play with, there's a strong chance he is definitely cheating.Best of luck; take care.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 That is a hell of a story. The important thing is you know what it is you want you just want to know how to go about it. It is very simple. You end it.
You call him and ask him to meet you. Make sure the place is a private quiet place with not many people around. Tell him how you feel towards his possible feeling towards his ex and tell him how you feel neglected and that you cannot be second.
Tell him you do not feel for him like you once did and you are unable to trust him as you once did and then tell him you want it to be over. I would hold back accusing him of cheating on you and if he pulls that then just tell him you cannot help feeling second in his heart.
If he cares about you he will see this as a wake up call if he doesn't then it will allow you to move on.
I wish you the best of luck.
HonningKanin
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