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writes:hi,i am really worried at the moment cos i think ive got depression.it all started 6 months ago when my original teacher left on maternity leave and we got this new guy who i kinda fell in love with.now, i know you will say its just a crush but i have had 4 bf in the past and have never felt this way with them.when ever i see him, my heart starts beating really fast and i get breathless and cant physically speak to him without saying something stupid.at night i cry because i love him so much it hurts, i always want to be with or around him and all my thought are centered around him. i have lost all of my interests because of it.it was all going well a few weeks ago but then my friend wrote that i loved him in a text book and we got really shouted at (by head of department, not him) and he came over to us and said that we got him told off. then he told someone in another year group (who i know) that i fancied him!. its only just got back to normal cos he comes over to our table more now but he spends most of his time with a nother girl and to be honest i want the attention back.i want to know, how can i put this behind me?, do i have depression? and how can i show him i am sorry for what i have put him through.also, i tought he liked me cos he used to flirt with me ut it might be because his wife died in feburary last year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Can I just say I'm exactly in your situation. My teacher's husband died a couple of years after I was born. The age difference is ridiculous, she has kids older than me but nothing puts me off because I just care what happens to her.We have a slightly different relationship to you and your teacher, but like the others, we have to learn to get over them and move on.The only bit I'm worried about now is leaving her forever in July, when I leave school for college or 6th form.Also, things like this may not be taken seriously but, if it's serious to you, then it's serious because it's affecting someone in that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Oh look you're pretending to be someone else again.
And by the way, they were things I said to you. Why would anyone give a crap about me telling you to use capital letters? Apart from you of course.
I'm done arguing with you now little girl. Please go away. Bye bye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): you guys are pathetic and unsympathetic: just because two girls share the same opinion and are from Britain, and can't be bothered using capital letters, doesn't mean that they are the same person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionduh, of course things were mentioned that was in the post because its right on the page!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Lol of course it wasn't you. You mention things referred to in this post but it wasn't you, no. You're not the brightest are you sweetie?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat messages?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhuh? that wasnt me who posted then.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Join the club, Leanna. I can spot her postings and I try to warn the aunts. She certainly has a mouth on her, I hope she doesn't kiss Granny with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I've been recieving abusive messages from this charmer...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): For the love of god use some capital letters!!!
It kind of gave away that the anonymous post below is from you also.
Punctuation!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): everyone is being so mean! she is in love with her teacher and it is making her depressed, and she just wants to talk about it and get it off her chest! stop getting at her!!im in exactly the same position, in that my love - and YES it is love, because i dont think of him in a sexual/physical way, just talking with him, holding his hand etc - for my teacher has made me depressed and suicidal, and i know that i for one dont want others to patronize me or tell me its a school girl crush, i just want to get it off my chest and maybe read about others in similar situation.you're not alone: speak to a hotline annonymously and let it all out, it'll help. good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Forget the doctor, I think you've seen the light.
Promise us that you will only consider men your own age until you graduate high school, okay?
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, im just gonna kinda get on with life now. i know he doesnt love me, he found out and avoided me for ages almost 4 months and he only just got talking to me about everyday stuff, i cant tell my parents cos my mum used to work at the school and knows him.
about the doctors? what should i do about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Your fishing for answers that fit your nieve logic. Many people have spent time offering their experience and you have completely ignored them. Your coming off as a brick wall, and it is apparent that you don't have any knowledge and consequences of your actions.
This teacher lost his wife and probably is still feeling the pain, then you walk in. Yo really think you can help him? Give him the love he needs? If you answer yes! Then you don't understand the situation. He is an adult and you are a child. Do you know what would happen to him if he were to accept what you offer? He would be labeled a pedaphile and be locked up for 20 years in prison. To do this to someone is hating someone to get revenge. Do you think your love is that strong that he could forgive you for the consequences he would suffer of living behind bars for 20 years? Maybe in fairy tales, but your dealing with reality, and reality has immediate consequences.
Do you know that if you continue to pursue this, the school could end up kicking you out, and your parents would have to drive you to the next school.
You have a serious problem that needs to be addressed soon; a doctors visit might be appropriate. You should immediately go to your mother or father and explain this to them so you can get help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand its not a twist that his wife died, it did happen cos he told the whole class when we were learning about the human body, and he looked like he was going to cry, so he wouldnt lie like that
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks eyeswideopen, that was really helpful, not. please dont patronise me, yeah i know what your saying and stuff but i think i have depression over it and that is the whole point of the post
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 March 2008):
You might as well save your breath on this post, my fellow aunts. She isn't looking for any real help with her crush, she just wants to go on and on about her teacher, but his wife dying is a new twist. No one can convince her this isn't true love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe even told me where he lives!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim 13 and he is 45-50 so i dont think that anything is gonna happen when i leave school, but he is leaving next year and i cant imagine what its gonna be like cos we have been off for 2 weeks and i miss him so much now.
also i know loads about him,
i know his name, age, i know about his wife, he is lactose intolerent and i even know his number plate!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): I remember when I was in school, that I fancied my female arts teacher. She was hot! Just looking into her eyes, I felt all warm inside, she was the one I wanted to marry. But a voice in the back of my head reminded me that she was only my teacher, she was here to offer me knowledge and not a relationship. With much pondering and internal searching, what I latter learned about me, was that for appearance, my girl would be similar in beauty as my arts teacher. For the way my arts teacher and I spoke to each other, this is what I would seek in a girl eventually. In time, I would, but I had a lot of learning and experiencing life to become the person I wanted to be, before I met that girl of my dreams. I met a lot of beautiful people on the way, but from then 16 year old until 32 years old when I finaly met and married her.
This is what experience is, learning the traits and personalities of others, and holding them dear to the heart, and hoping through the experience and education I've learned, that I will be able to nurture out of a person to reveal that special someone for me.
There are plenty of rough roads ahead, but being open to them, always protecting who you are inside; not giving it up, is so important in life for survival.
Take care, and good life!
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