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writes:Does my male friend fancy me?. I have spoken to him about my ex boyfriend sometimes. He kept saying that I deserved to be treated better than how my ex was treating me. We had a night out last night. He touched my leg with his foot in a jokey way a couple of times and he winked at me once. He also kept putting his arm around me and danced with me. Also when we were leaving, he gave me a hug and a kiss on the lips ( not a French kiss ). A couple of times that night, people assumed that I was his girlfriend, but he didn't tell them that I was just his friend. He puts kisses on his text messages to me sometimes and calls me Hun and he thanked me for last night. He also paid for my drinks, even though i offered to pay. I'm not sure how to ask him how he feels.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2017):
 It sounds like a date yes but stop for a moment. If you are not over your ex then this will end in him getting hurt. Therefore I think you need to be honest with yourself and him and let him know where he stands. It is not fair on him getting hurt if you are not ready to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2017): I met up with him again tonight. We had already arranged to go out for drinks again on Friday night but when we were out tonight, he asked me if I wanted to make a longer night of it on Friday and go for a meal with him before the drinks! Does this mean that it could be a date?!. I'm not sure lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2017): I think the signals are pretty direct. Are you interested in him in a romantic way? Are you physically-attracted to him, and can you see yourself eventually being intimate with him?
If you are not the least interested in being anything but friends, gently let him know now. As long as he openly flirts and he gets mixed-signals, he'll assume the possibility exists. Unless you stop him, it's going to get increasingly awkward.
I didn't read anything in your post that says you are appalled or offended. I sense the passes are acceptable, but you just want to be sure. Personally, short of grabbing you and giving your a French kiss; he has made it obvious enough that he has a romantic-interest in you. He's asking for a chance.
He has shown you how he feels. What more do you need? Ask him straight-out if he's trying to tell you he wants to date you? If the answer is no, laugh it off. Then tell him to quit flirting so much! If the answer is yes? Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2017): I feel like I am starting to have feelings for him. I still need to get over my last relationship a bit though.
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reader, N91 +, writes (12 February 2017):
 I agree with YCBS, how you feel is more important.
Do you want to get together? Give it a shot if you're good friends. If you don't then maybe just have a quiet word so he knows where the boundaries lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2017): I think he fancies you
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (12 February 2017):
 The question is, how do YOU feel about it?
He could be either a flirty person who is comfortable and relaxed around you, or he could be cautiously testing the water to find out if there could be more to this relationship.
If you are happy to explore new relationship boundaries with him, then have a talk with him and see how he feels. If not, then draw the line - very clearly - at anything else happening.
Good luck. Friendship has to be a fabulous basis for a relationship with someone.
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