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writes:Hi there, I need your help so desperately. My boyfriend and I were together for 14 years. We have two boys together. A month ago he broke up with me because I bad talk him with his sister and his ex. I know I was wrong to do that but I was hurt that he cheated on me so I said a lot of things. I've been texting him everyday and apologizing to him begging for forgiveness. I even sent gift and flowers to him thinking that would make him talk to me, which it didn't. I've stopped texting now. He don't speak to me. I cry everyday. I just want him back. I don't know what to do. I just want some advice on how to get him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): My boyfriend and I recently broke up (he dumped me) and were lucky enough to get back together. When we were apart, I was hurt and angry, and said some things about him that I wish I could shove back in my mouth. To satisfy my mind, I have made a vow to never do that again.
Regarding your man, I suggest you stop calling and texting him immediately. Whenever the phone beckons you to beg, leave the phone and go somewhere until the urge to call him surpasses. Lean on your family and friends. Avoid his family and friends. It will be difficult and agonizingly hard at first. But, believe me, he will respect you more and respond to you more rapidly if you aren't available to him.
You have already decided to forgive him for his infidelity; and, with children in the picture, it's understandable.
Good luck, my friend.
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reader, romany  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Come on, think about this and put it into perspective, he hasn't just done this to you, he has done this to his children too, he cheated on you, then he left you, now he is making you feel like he is in the right for being angry at you!!!!, and then he refuses to talk to you, and ignores you.
14 years and 2 boys you have given this man, and you think its ok for him to treat you this way, there is nothing you could have done, nothing bad enough to justify the way he is treating you, I'm appaulled, he should be beggin forgiveness, not punishing you for something he deserved, (altho i'd have told everyone who would have listened, not just his sister and ex).
You need to take a good hard look at yourself, You need to find your self love, no one has the right to treat you like this, no one should be able to make you feel the way you do now, your so dependent on him, you'd rather put yourself thru the soul destroying rejection that he is giving you now, because you cannot imagine life on your own, You need to love yourself, if you find it difficult to find, then remember when your kids were little, and you were their world, and they'd look at you with all that love radiating from them, think of all the good things you do for others, foresaking your own needs, think how many people you have made smile when your life has been
upside down, and realise you are one heck of a woman, and realise you deserve more.
If their dad does come back, hopefully you'll be in a better place, (I cringe to think of you saying sorry, you have nothing to be sorry for.)that you can make sure he comes back on your terms.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 August 2010):
This is a guy who cheated on you. Why do you want him back? Talking bad about him is nothing in comparison to what he did to you.
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reader, big ben +, writes (24 August 2010):
let time be the judge ... you were cheated on he should be the one wanting forgivness its only natural you where upset and we all say things in anger if he ever thought anything of you he should talk to you and explain why he cheated and then you can explain how urt you were dont chase just phone him and ask shall we talk or just let go its his problem dont feel guilty
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