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writes:we have been together for nearly 3 years, we have a house and a dog together. For the few weeks I realised she was getting distant from me....I pointed this out and she said she loves me but not 'in love' with me. She says she doesnt know why or what the problem is. she says its nothing to do with me but im not so sure.....I dont know what to do!We never argue and we get on so well. I treat her right and we always out and having fun. I can read her like a book and always know if somethings wrong. Last summer she had been really ill and was in hospital for months. Her work is so stressful and has really been stressed at work the last few weeks. It had been getting her down and she failed to get a promotion. This is when I began to notice her being different...Unfortunately I just assumed it was work that was getting to her and didn't realise at the time it was more serious.Before the problem when we have been together she hints at a wedding, at the time i joked it off...saying 'the more you say that i'll add six months'....little did she know I was going to propose to her next year as i was saving.I dont want to lose the girl I've wanted to marry as soon as I saw her. Its breaking my heart that shes making the biggest mistake of her life...Whether from work and being ill, she thought i didnt want to marry her and there was no future that got her into this rut i dont know.. I think i screwed it up as if i'd known earlier I would have proposed so much sooner.....I love her so much and it will destroy me if she leaves me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): She's left me......she says it won't work and she needs time and space to be on her own.I love her soo much I can't be without her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Thankyou you have been very helpful.
It's much appreciated :) x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 Tell her you joked it off because you felt a little pressured, and that you are trying to save money. She said she doesn't know what the problem is. Let me tell you this, when you tell a woman you love her more than she thinks, romance her with flowers and letters, it works like magic. When my boyfriend told me he loves me, that he loved me first, that he will take care of me, knows what's best for me, I am no longer needy, clingy, and I can just enjoy life and not worry so much about what he thinks. Women have been waiting and waiting they feel numb. To protect themselves from frustration they closed off the ability to feel. You can ignite that passion again, never withhold your love, and the "problem" that's there will just disappear. It's not so much about the wedding date, it's about you being there and never leave, even when she's ill, and not too happy at work.
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