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I secretly masturbate but don't like doing this ...any advice?

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Question - (31 July 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2010)
A male Ireland age 41-50, *rivateMasturbator writes:


I have been living with My Girlfriend a while now but I secretly masturbate a lot. No one knows about this, I have porn magazines hidden behind the panelling on the bath in the bathroom and I masturbate to them sometimes. I also masturbate sometimes in bed or just before sex. I don't know why I do it. Some times I feel that I do it incase I cum to fast when I have sex but not always.

I mostly feel depressed and angry after sex then if I have masturbated before hand. Sometimes I think it is because I feel My partner doesn't accept Me and when I feel rejected I masturbate but I don't like doing it.

Please Help.


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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (1 August 2010):

person12345 agony auntMasturbating is healthy and normal and most people do it and continue to do it while dating. As long as it's not causing problems with your girlfriend (either with hurting her or causing problems actually having sex) then there's no problem at all, especially since it helps you last longer. Though you should probably get rid of the magazines since your wife would probably be upset. It also seems excessive to hide them in the panelling. Why not ask for some photos of your wife?

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (31 July 2010):

Well surely a lot depends on how much actual sex you are getting.

If you are doing it every day or even every other day I would think you shouldn't need to masturbate as well ( isn't it usually second best to sliding up and down inside a gf's vagina ?? )

But if you are not getting it at least 3 or 4 times a week I would think that is the issue you need to discuss with the gf. Are you even sexually compatible ?

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntIt is human nature to feel self induced pleasure I wouldn't think about it too much everyone you know is probably doing it too, except apparently your gf.

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A male reader, PrivateMasturbator Ireland +, writes (31 July 2010):

PrivateMasturbator is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you caring guy.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (31 July 2010):

There is nothing wrong with masturbating. You can't help it. No man can really. You can't help being horny. I'd suggest getting rid of the magazines, as if your wife finds them she might be hurt. But I don't think you need to worry about anything.

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