A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey all! I could do with some advice on a situation im in. Ill try keep it short!Well im 17 years old, and im in college. I was with my boyfriend for 19 months, but finished with him in september, because he had started to become abusive and also for another reason, i started back at college and i met this boy, and it was instant attraction on my behalf. I had butterflys for weeks. But now im finding it hard to read the signs.I havent told this boy i like him, but weve gradually become friends. He really liked another girl when he first started my college, but she was with her boyfriend, and still is. He got upset over it, as he's one of these boys thats a typical ladies boy. We talked for a while just me and him, and he told me how he thougth i was a good looking girl etc. Since then weve got to know each other a lot more. But now its almost as if he's trying to make me jealous. He speaks to me, and tells me about a girl he's speaking to, but then a day later he'l say im not speaking to her anymore. He come's and sits by me and my lessons, and il be doing my work not speaking to him, and he'l find something and call me over to look at it, its like the childish flirting. He'l find a picture of something disgusting and say oh come here, il walk over and he'l say its you. Then oh im only joking. I dont want to sound big headed, but ive never had this problem before. Ive always had boys wanting to go out with me, and ive had boys post there number throught my door and stop me in the street. In college three of his friends have told me that they like me, but even thought there lovely boys, i cant take my mind off him. He speaks to me on msn, but sometimes its really brief and then other times its realy in depth, the other day he asked me to go on webcam out of the blue, and we were sat speaking over webcam to each other, and then the next day i wont get a word out of him.(but only on msn, i always speak to him in college) In college though, hes really talkative, and like i said he will come and sit by me and speak, and send me songs he likes for me to listen to, and ask me what he should wear places, and if i like what he's done to his hair. All the time im thinking why do you care what i think?! The other day a boy commented how we were well suited to each other, as we look good together. (We just seem to match) but both of us ignored the comment, without even looking at each other.Do you think i should try for this boy, he's everything iv looked for in a boy, hes gorgeous, has the same music/style/subject taste as me. He has me in hysterics, and hes just generally lovely.Help! What shall i do? I dont understand any of this. Thankyou in advance xxx
View related questions:
flirt, jealous, msn Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Wow this seems like a similar situation that happened to me. Just ignore it and move on. DO NOT CARE! Just don't care for it. Ignore it. and try to AVOID looking at him or listening to things about him. that'll get you more interested in him and he will brainwash you with how he doesn't like you and yet tries to make you jealous. Avoid him and avoid his situations with "trieing" to make you jealous. Try it. make new boys that are just simply 'friends' it'll take ur mind off that silly boy. ive done it and it worked. u'll find ur college sweetheart in no time.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): He sounds like he just wants to be friends with you. He will interact and call you over etc but boys your age are normally much more obvious when they like someone romantically. He just sounds as though he likes you as a friend and nothing more.
...............................
A
female
reader, bitterblue  +, writes (12 November 2009):
 Many boys of this age won't spend that much time in company of girls they are not attracted to, at 17 sex is quite often on the brain and you haven't noticed but from what I see he keeps hinting that he likes you by telling you that you are good looking and by making silly jokes. The trying to make you jealous is probably his way to impress and obtain a reaction, but sooner or later he should grow up. You might as well try and see what happens. You could start by noticing his presence, and show him that his company is liked. If you have more in common than liking the same music and having attractive looks something good could even come out of this. So if you yearn for a deeper connection see how you can get things heading in that direction. Best of luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, Louise-uk +, writes (12 November 2009):
 Hello.
It seems like you get on well, and you write that he has all the qualities that you would wish. You're able to speak to him. I say go for it !!
Don't waste time trying to work our what he's thinking. You like him, so don't be afraid to ask. You don't have to directly ask him out, you could say that you'd like to spend more time together as you enjoy your time with him.
Good luck !!
...............................
|
