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writes:I have always have had sex with prostitutes, but never with a "normal" woman. I just don't get turned on by normal women. only prostitutes turn me on. Is there any thing wrong with this? Am i supposed to have sex with hoes the rest of my life? I have never had a normal sexual relationship, only with hoes.Let me know guys :)
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reader, disappointedwoman +, writes (29 August 2008):
Okay, I'm not bashing, but who are you calling a Ho? Really..it takes two to tango. My advice is...don't get married...ever! I don't believe men who are obsessed with prostitutes will ever be satisfied with a normal woman, so the best you can do is damage control by NOT involving some trusting woman in this train wreck. I'm not being mean..I really mean it. I would NEVER have wanted to be married to my husband if I had known that after almost 20 years, two children, and my total devotion, he would pay me back by cheating on me with escorts. Don't try to fool yourself and be somebody you can't be. Get therapy if you want, for your own well being, but just don't try to solve this by telling yourself that you could change if you found the right girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): The aunts and uncles here have given you some very good advice and you would be wise to consider their comments and take them on board. I have nothing to add except to remind you about the beauty that a "normal" relationshhip can give.
With girlfriends and wives you get a friend, somebody you can talk to when you have troubles. They cook you breakfast and dinner and share baths with you. They tuck you into bed and give you medicine when your sick. They watch stupid films with you and try to pretend that football/boxing/golf is the best thing in the world. They can't go out untill their well dressed and they get your approval. When they take of their clothes they have sex underwear that only you get to see, but on the outside they wear sports kit and trainers and look just like a man. "Normal" women give hugs and kisses just because you remembered their birthday, and they worry their heart out because they need to get you a special gift when your birthday comes along. They laugh when you get fat and bald, they tease you, but still want to jump your bones in bed. They don't care about the money, when you give money to them, they take the money and buy something that they think you will enjoy. "Normal" women talk a lot, they talk and they nag untill you have to kiss them to shut them up. They don't have sex for money, "normal" women are cheap, they will have sex with you because you take out the rubbish, you kiss them or you tell them they look good when they've put on a couple of pounds. "Normal" women love to drag their man around town, they love to show you off. They keep touching you and picking things off your clothes, their kind of obsessive this way. The best thing about "normal" women is that you get to hold them all night, but it's best you go to sleep so you don't see them drool and snore.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (12 July 2008):
You've had sex with them for so long that your the sexual side of you has come to expect a prostitute along with sexual arousal. You condition yourself that way unconciously. You have to wean yourself of prostitutes, use that money to by a girl a drink at a bar, or to pay for an HIV test.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Sounds perfectly normal to me. You want sex but you don't want the bother of a permanent relationship and you don't want the hassle (and expense) of chasing after women for one night stands. Besides which, you get variety with "whores" and they are there to serve you, not to give you a hard time (unlike many "normal" women, who actually have expectations).
I think you will continue to pay money for sex until you're ready for a proper relationship. When that will be I have no idea. Unfortunately, your habit of seeking sex with prostitutes could become a big problem if it came back after you were married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Depends what you mean by normal....why not get a girlfriend...who charges you for a jump...and give her the freedom to screw other men...hey presto..the twain join..you no longer have a problem...take movies of her...put her in play boy...maybe it'syou who's NORMAL? sounds like you not keen on women to me....the other option is just get on with it and stop worring because one day that old thing called LOVE may bite you on the bottom. Or maybe you need to see a sexual tharapist.....who knows!
maybe you dont feel worried about sexually satisfying a ( normal ) woman...a prostitute only says thanks for the cash? there on a good number actually...think i might charge my boe ....wouldnt want to feel NORMAL...what a boring word....i notice this word is of some SIGNIFICANCE to you.....excitment vs normal try to join them, it'sa lot cheaper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Sounds like you dont want commitment perhaps youve had a lot of troubles in your life.
if you want to spend your money on pros that is up to you but youre damaging your chances of finding a ncie "normal" girl ebcasue not many if they founbd out would be too impressed with your sexual history so if I were uyou make your mind up if you really want a normal girl before its too late or whether your happy to stick with pros
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Same reason some people prefer to take drugs regularly than be sober for 1 second, or rob other people instead of getting a job. (This is only an opinion, not a fact), I think you are lazy, and afraid of reality. It's takes work to be with someone, and have the perk of having sex with them. The sex comes with strings attatched to it. Sex wth prostitues has no strings (exept the great possability of catching an STD). Commiting yourself to someone can be a little scary, especially when all you really want is sex. For some people, doing something that they know is morally wrong is exciting and fun. The thrill of it can be even more exciting than what it is they are doing. The way you were raised could be a part of it too. It really depends on your background, and the feelings you get when you are in the act of being with a prostitute (besides sex).
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 There are normal women out there? Where?
What is it about sex for money that turns you on and what is it about sex without the direct transfer of money that doesn't?
I suppose that it could give you a sense of control, after all hookers don't turn you down and there is no pressure to perform or please her.
Frankly, it sounds like there you for some reason don't want the hazzle of having to seduce a woman beyond putting some cash in her hand.
Do you feel the same about one-night-stands?
If you want us to tell why you feel X way you need to tell us what you feel.
Because if you call them hoes your problem might be that deep down you just don't like women. Fear? Hate? Resentment?
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