A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone! I am on a long distance relationship for 3 years, I really love this guy to the point we were getting engaged and such.He hid from me the fact he went with a female friend to a concert, even after I confronted him.He deleted this friend from Facebook, and I always had his passwords to everything , from his email to FB. Suddenly he changed his password as soon as he re-added her, since we play a game together on FB I send myself game items from his account (with his permission) so I asked him for his pwd again, he would not give it to me, and then he reluctantly did, but changed it back 5 minutes later, something he had never done before. We have always had this trust in each other, he has always had my passwords, and he was the most OPEN person I ever knew which made me trust him.. and I never spy on him or read his stuff. Suddenly he changed every password I ever had, and stopped telling em his plans and such.So, honestly.... we are on an LDR, he will probably lie if I ask. I think I should break up with him. Sure, he is entitled to his privacy, but his attitude and demeanor towards em ahve changed, to the point where he barely tells me what he does, and he was going to buy my ticket to go see him and backed out , all on this month, and he added this girl, and likes her stuff....I am not saying he is cheating, but I do not feel I can trust him, his attitudes/actions make me feel like I cannot trust him as man.I think I should break up with him...what do you guys think? Am I making a big deal of this? Or should I not even be concerned?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 September 2012):
 I think you should break up too.
you clearly don't trust him
you think he will lie to you so even if he tells the truth you won't believe him will you?
so you have been LDR for three years
have you always been LDR
did you meet online?
how much time have you spent together?
when do you plan to end the distance and why are you still apart?
if you do not trust him
if you think he's lying to you
then it does not matter what WE think.
for me at your age after 3 years... if one of us was not moving to be with the other, I'd question the viability of the relationship.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 September 2012):
 I think the distance is getting to him, he's possibly outgrowing the relationship and it does seem he's been detaching lately. Not that he is necesarily cheating, but if ths goes on any longer that will become a strong possibility.
My advice is not to confront, but to gracefully end it without asking him questions. You have your suspicions, as do we. You There is nothing to be gained by putting him on the spot and giving him an opportunity to lie to you (if he is inclined to do that). The writing is on the wall.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 September 2012):
 Long Distance relations are know for their difficulties.
I mean, when you are able to meet only once in a while, it's very hard to become close, and to find out how well-suited the two of you are. You've been in contact with this man for three years and are thinking (have been thinking) of getting engaged without him moving to your area or you to his.
I think what has happened is that he has found a friend who lives a lot nearer to his location.
Anyway, he has lied to you and I think you have good reason not to trust him.
All things considered, you do well to seriously think about giving him the boot..... or to put it another way, fire him!
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