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writes: hello,I'm currently living abroad wih my boyfriend of two years but we plan on going home the end of next year. there was this guy, we'll call him Jim, that i was really good friends with back home who my boyrfiend asked me not to speak to anymore because Jim and I had been exchanging private messages and he was understandably jealous (the fact that Jim is gorgeous doesn't help). so i deleted Jim from facebook, made a effort to avoid him and now that i am living abroad i obviously never see him or speak to him. The problem is i cant get jim off my mind, no matter how happy i am with m boyfriend (very happy btw)i miss him. the main thing that bugs me is that i never got the chance to explain to him that i couldn't speak to im anymore, i just suddenly ended contact and that was that. he made subtle efforts to reconnect but i've since blocked him. i hate to think that he feels confused and hurt or like he's done something wrong when he really hasn't or perhaps that he thinks less of me, thinks i am weak and just do as my boyfriend orders and perhaps can't forgive me for it. i'd really like to go back to being friends when my boyfriend and i return home but it's such a sore topic for my boy i dont think it'll be possible! it's been over a year now but he still gets very upset about Jim and we never talk about him ever. i've been the most honest and faithful girlfriend i could possibly be since Jim because it made me appreicate my boyfriend, not take him for granted and realise how lucky i am, but i dont know if my boyfriend fully realises this. please help me, or help me to get jim off my mind!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 October 2009):
You've got to keep focusing on your current relationship with yuor boyfriend. If you try to get back into contavt with Jim, you'll jeopardize everything. Focus on the present and keep focusing on it.
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