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writes:Hi all.I REALLY need advice how to break up with someone, me and my LDR boyfriend have a great relationship and we have lots of laughs and fun, but right now I am going through problems in my life right now and cannot hold a relationship. I had to leave the house I lived in with my college roommates because of their constant partying, drugs and drinking.(I don't do any nor I drink) They even let in a guy who stalked me and whom I have a restraining order against INSIDE my room. They've gone into my room and destroyed my things.So I am staying over at a friend's house on her couch while frantically looking for a place.I don't even have my laptop with me because I had to leave so suddenly. There are other issues,with stuff like my parent's health, and I cannot communicate with my LDR as often.I've never been in this situation before, I just cannot make my LDR a priority like before.I feel the fair thing to him would be to break up, or that we need some time while I get on my feet. He NEEDS the communication and I just cannot give that to him, I feel it's so unfair. I sincerely love him a lot,but I feel that I should let him go.I've never broken up with anyone, much less someone I love...I don't even know how to start, or what words to say.I guess that is my question, what do you say? I would love to stay friends, but I understand if he can't do that. He wants it all with me kids,marriage, and so on.He has always been good to me, but I feel that I cannot give him what he deserves right now. Please tell me how to put this into words... I've never broken up with someone and I want to convey my feelings in a way he understands me...I know I will be a wreck, but please tell me WHAT to say and HOW?Thank you all :'(
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 August 2013):
 when you truly love someone, you find a way to make it work.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 August 2013):
 OH Drama Drama Drama. STOP being a victim here.
1. Call the police and have them escort you to get your things. Next time this person you have a restraining order against is in the same location as you… CALL THE POLICE.
2. How LDR are you with this man? Have you ever met in real life? Have you always been LDR?
YOU feel the fair thing to him would be to break up but the truth is, it’s NOT your call. Part of being a couple (even LDR couples) is talking through the bad times and WORKING to make things work. YOU say you love him and yet you seek a way to LEAVE him without giving him any input into this???
How about if you tell him what’s going on and why you want to break up and let him make the choice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): if you are really right for eachother you will get through bad times together..your suppost to lean on people you love when you go through hard times thats just life..you dont have to leave someone you love.. if he can give you space and respect it through this time then he is a good guy
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