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writes:My best-friend, has being dating this girl for year and a month now. last Friday she wrote him a text massage saying she knew what she was about to tell him wound hurt him but prayed that he would understand. Then she said she was putting everything on hold (that is their love life and friendship)because she wanted to concentrate on her studies.My best-friend stopped calling and texting her, though he was extremely hurt. to his surprise she called him and told him that she was sorry for putting everything on hold and wanted him to be just a friend,nothing more. He doesn't know what to do. Should he forget her because he feels his love is not being reciprocated?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Being friends with someone like this is almost impossible. All it does is prevent you from being able to deal with your feelings, and properly grieving the dead relationship. Going from boyfriend and girlfriend to just friends only works for the person who wants that change. The other person is usually left in pain, especially if they try being just friends.
That she did this via text is the lowest of the low. Your friend can do much better than a person who doesn't even care enough about him to tell him in person or over a call.
He should definitely move on from this pathetic person. I suggest he cut all communications with her after he tells her he cannot be just friends. Relationships should move forward, not backward.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (21 February 2011):
You don't put your love on hold. It isn't a phone call, is it?
I guess there is not real love in the other end. So yes, he should leave her.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Studies, sounds like an excuse for something else. In case she's telling the truth, he should remain her friend but not show that he's upset about it. He has to trust that it's a good decision on both sides. College typically goes for 4 years. The longest, like a phd or a doctor's program, goes for 10 years. Does that mean she is not going to date anyone, kiss anyone in 10 years? Come on. Her message did not sound definite enough. For now I can just assume that she just doesn't want to be pressured so much. Like if he wants to get married now, forget it. But she would still appreciate some fun time with him. She doesn't want you to wait and get frustrated. if he wants something serious he can find someone else. If he has the patience and has faith that she is the one, he can wait.
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