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writes:I was with my girlfriend for about 1 year and I still have feeling for her. Problem is at a New Years Eve party when we were in a relationship I saw her in a corner getting off or making out with another guy. I vaguely knew him and I just left them and walked out I didn't tell her I saw but she acted weird and I could tell she felt uncomfortable as if she was hiding something, obviously I knew. On the 8th of January I think I came out straight and we broke up. Ever since then she has been apologizing and asking for another chance. I have forgiven her since I am a Christian but I don't feel I can ever trust her. Am I being arrogant and stubborn and give it another chance or am I doing the right thing? I still love her but I need some advice.
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reader, ClearEyes  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Save yourself dude. If she can't stay loyal to you, tell her straight up that she screwed up and that you won't be played. DO NOT give her a second chance. Cheaters like her will cheat on you serially, I promise you that. Age 14 is where it starts. Find someone worthwhile.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 February 2011):
 You're doing the right thing. She needs to know you won't be cheated on. Forgiving her is one thing, but putting yourself back in the same situation is just stupid.
She blew her chance with you. Let her know it. Her words are worthless. Her actions are what matters, and her actions were those of a cheater. I wouldn't trust her either, and a relationship cannot survive without trust.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (21 February 2011):
If you don't feel you can trust her then making a second chance work is going to be very difficult.
Arrogance and stubborness has little to do with it. She broke your trust and hurt you.
It's your call but I know what I would do and that would be not to take her back.
We all make mistakes in life and it's important to learn lessons from our mistakes. If you don't, you'll make the mistakes again
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Forgiving is one thing. Giving another chance is a completely different thing. I'm not a Christian so I don think everyone deserves to be forgiven and much less everyone deserves another chance. But it's up to you to decide.
You have the right to preserve yourself of not being hurt again. So not giving her another chance is not being arrogant but emotionally smart. And that is a good thing for you.
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