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writes:Hey DC, Forge back again, and I'm freaking out.I recently (the day I posted this) asked out a girl that I fell for on day one, and have had a serious thing for her since. We've known each other a bit less than two weeks.I was told by several people that she liked me, including a friend I asked to confirm if she liked me, and she said yes.I was going to ask her in a bit better setting, a more alone location, but my friend pressured me and I just blurted out "will you go out with me?" And a bunch of my friends laughed at me, which really killed my self esteem, which has been low to begin with from being nervous.Instead of saying yes, she just said "I'll think about it." And after that, I just went quiet and more or less shut down. I went and talked with my friends, and she went to talk to hers. Her friends and her quickly left, as well.I'm freaking out because this girl stole my heart. Love at first sight much? My brain is in tatters, and my heart is on the verge of breaking, just from fear alone! If she says no, I'm not sure what I'll do.I'm already somewhat depressed** but don't show it. I'm afraid this could really screw me up.What do I do? I've faced rejection before, and it may suck, but I've handled it before. Now I'm fearful of it.Someone help me out, I'm just having a breakdown over something that might not happen. I'm worried for myself.-Forge**my friends, who happen to be really close, have started more or less bullying me, a bit extensively. They call me "Dumbf*ck" and "retard" even though I've been friends with them for a long time. Years, even.
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reader, ShakeWutUrMamaGaveYou  +, writes (6 September 2014):
Hi, I've just read your followup. Move on from her, she's pushing her luck and you shouldn't be involved with people like that.
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reader, ShakeWutUrMamaGaveYou +, writes (6 September 2014):
Hey Forge. I forgot to add, those friends who are calling you names aren't friends. Real friends shouldn't do that. If it's really upsetting you, you should talk to someone about it, because name calling is classed as bullying and bullying is NOT ok!!! I know how it feels to be so in love BTW. There's this guy I've liked since year 7, and I'm in year 9 now!!! Anyway, I'm here for you. Good luck! xxx!
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reader, ShakeWutUrMamaGaveYou +, writes (6 September 2014):
Hi Forge. Good question. Just because this girl told you that she'd think about it, it doesn't mean she's gonna reject you! Maybe she's nervous, or maybe she had problems in the past. However, if she does say no, then you should move on!!! I know that it'll be a bit hard, but you'll get over it. Trust me!!! There's so many nice girls out there, and you sound like a really nice guy. It's not often you find very many of those these days. Good luck, I hope I helped. xxx
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (6 September 2014):
 Forge, you have known this girl two weeks - TWO WEEKS! Ive had bowel Movements last longer! To get so hurt, upset and fretful over a girl you have known a fortnight is not healthy.
You need to learn to make your own decisions, don't do what your friends tell you! Look - you are 13-15! You are still a mere child, to act as if your whole life is buggered because a girl you have know 2 weeks may reject you is silly!
You are taking this way, way too seriously. We all get rejected we all fall or people we cannot have, we all get hurt...part of life is to have a sense of perspective.
Mark
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reader, Forge +, writes (5 September 2014):
Forge is verified as being by the original poster of the question The girl I asked now refuses to talk to me. I said to her this morning "hey, I need to talk to you later, is that okay?" And her reply was to not look at me, or even acknowledge my presence.
I messed up. YAY! Go me! :'(
I really liked her too.
-Forge
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