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I may have been friendzoned, so what's the best way to tell her I want more?

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Question - (31 August 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 September 2014)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

This girl and I have been friends for quite a while (six months). I flirted with her in the beginning but she turned me down because she said that she couldn't date two people from the same company she worked at(she currently doesn't work there anymore). She use to date this guy there but they broke up, that's when I started hitting on her but she turned me down .

The was fine, we decided to hang out anyway. At first, it felt hard to be around her but I got over the feelings and tension. She often came over to my place and hung out. I would do the same at hers. She even slept over a handful of times. We've gotten close to the point where she would talk to me while she's taking a shower, with the door wide open as if daring me to look. I didn't because I felt I would be a creep if I did.

Lately, we've been spending day after day with or texting each other. I find myself liking her a little more and more. I fear I have already been friend zoned but I'm hopeful that that's not the case. Honestly, I do plan on letting her know how I feel as I'm not the kind of guy to stay friends with a girl I have feelings for. Being friends in the first place was accidental. It started of with just us talking, us exchanging numbers, us hanging outside of work and then us hanging at each other's places.

I'm just not sure what's the best way to let her know. Should it be a romantic gesture (me taking her out to dinner then slowly go in for a kiss at then end of the night) or just sit her down and casually bring it up? What do you think?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 September 2014):

Honeypie agony auntAsk her out on a DATE. A real date. And make sure she understand that the DATE means you WANT to DATE her.

IF she shoots you down, then you know you are firmly friendzoned (which basically mean SHE doesn't LIKE you "that" way and you can either accept that you will only ever be a friend or you can stop talking to her).

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2014):

You should tell her how you feel. Thats the only way to find out. I may have my opinion but i could be wrong.

So i suggest tell her and ask her directly.

But if u would ask me i am positive she likes you more than friends.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2014):

great man... go ahead..

just to quote my friend

" It is hard not to feel something for someone when your sixth sense tells you they like you :)"

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