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writes:hey, yo.I'm really, REALLY flirty with this guy, and he's really flirty right back. If not more so. I really, really like him. He's thirty. He's hot. He's funny, and he's really kind! We were flirting like crazy on the way home and we always joke about 'parking', which we mean parking on a back road with the lights off. He slowed down near a road and said 'it's up to you.', looking at me seriously. I kind of looked at him for a minute. I thought he was kidding for a moment, and my stomach did that little 6th grade crush butterfly thing and I laughed and said 'oh, why not?'. So he was driving around, and he whipped into this dark place and he parks. There's this silence. We started talking about what we thought was cheating, since he has a GF and I have a BF. I said that having fantasies was not cheating because it's human nature, but I left out that I thought kissing wasn't cheating because I wasn't sure about that idea. There was another silence and he looked at me again and he said 'I'm not going to ask you to do anything. It's up to you'. I confessed I'd look like a ho if I did do anything and he said I wasn't a ho, and explained that only the act to him is cheating. I dunno bout that. Bottom Line: Nothing happened!!! I totally chickened out! Cluck cluck cluck, glue the friggin' feathers to me now. I'm scared to death of hurting my boyfriend. I think I'm losing interest in my BF, tho. Not because of this other guy, but because my boyfriend has gotten boring, and he has a short fuse, and he complains about everything. One word? Wet blanket. It's a drag, because I'm a go getter. I'm a let's get up and do something kind of person, and he acts like OH MY GOD, I have to drag my butt around with her all day. I know he's tired from the last week, but it's been like this for a month! I still really love him, but not in the same lusty, fun-filled way like it was before. Now it's an I love you no matter what kind of love. The love that still makes me worry for him, you kno?Problem: If I drop my boyfriend of over a year, I won't ever see the other guy! Fwahhh! Help!! Not to mention, my BF is my BESTEST friend in the whole wide world, so I'll lose that too!!Any advice is appreciated, home dogs.-Torn
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow. SORRY for explaining my problem, Uncle R. That wasn't very helpful. That was a slap on the wrists for explaining my situation and what I wanted. I guess you'd have to understand how selfish and rude my boyfriend is, and what a bad temper he has. He never wants to get his butt out of the chair. You can't just fall out of love with someone! If you truly love someone, you don't stop loving them. EVER, no matter what. Jeeze Looeez.
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (12 February 2007):
let me get this right, you love your bf and say hes your best friend yet talk about him like that?i think your thoughts are all 'me,me,me'.. if your bf bores you then why are you with him?, you obviously cannot be bothered to talk your feeling through with him or trying to work on your relationship, which is what you should be doing rather than sitting down dark roads with other mem.spend time with him like a proper gf, turn off the tele and talk, and make sex spontaneous and varied. when ever you find yourself flirting with anyone. tell yourself your spoken for and you love him
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Meeting a new guy is always excitings and may explain why your boyfriend may sound boring to you now. You know him better, aware of his querks and he is familiar to you.
If your boyfriend does not make you feel wanted or satisfy you you should leave him. Be single when you try with another guy who can make you happy.
Guys will respect you more if you are single when flirting with them.
The fact that this new guy has a girlfriend and was ready to cheat on her with you, says enough for his credibility. Leave him well alone as he is a player.
You did the right thing but not allowing anything to happen but kissing would be cheating too for the record.
Decide if you still love your boyfriend and make the right decision is things cannot be worked out. I bet your boyfriend does not realize how you feel.
Either way be happy whether you do, but remember treat people that way you would like to be treated, even strangers as you goes around comes around.
Angel of Love
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